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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 578146" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Interestingly, I have two completely different yet similar perspectives.</p><p></p><p>In the 4+ years XH and I were together, we had two fights. They were BAD. But that was IT. One of the reasons we didn't fight? We didn't <em>talk</em>. Had nothing to do with feelings - we didn't talk about <em>anything</em>. And even more interesting? He and I were friends for years before that - and we <em>did</em> talk as friends. </p><p></p><p>Now husband and I have been together as a couple pretty much from our second date. No friendship beforehand. And that's been nearly ten years - we've been married over 7 1/2. We did everything "wrong" - saying those words too soon, sleeping together too soon, moving in together too soon, planning marriage too soon. And we've had disagreements. But we don't really <em>fight</em>, per se. No name calling (except in jest - never when fighting). Yes, there's some yelling occasionally, but mostly it is one-sided - one of us blows up. But... We TALK. And talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk... Yeah. Sometimes we beat dead horses. But honestly the talking is the <em>only</em> thing that saved our marriage about 3 1/2 years back. Made us stronger, somehow. We don't talk about feelings very much, though... Unless it's about me "feeling" tired!</p><p></p><p>in my opinion - if it works - why mess with it?!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 578146, member: 6705"] Interestingly, I have two completely different yet similar perspectives. In the 4+ years XH and I were together, we had two fights. They were BAD. But that was IT. One of the reasons we didn't fight? We didn't [I]talk[/I]. Had nothing to do with feelings - we didn't talk about [I]anything[/I]. And even more interesting? He and I were friends for years before that - and we [I]did[/I] talk as friends. Now husband and I have been together as a couple pretty much from our second date. No friendship beforehand. And that's been nearly ten years - we've been married over 7 1/2. We did everything "wrong" - saying those words too soon, sleeping together too soon, moving in together too soon, planning marriage too soon. And we've had disagreements. But we don't really [I]fight[/I], per se. No name calling (except in jest - never when fighting). Yes, there's some yelling occasionally, but mostly it is one-sided - one of us blows up. But... We TALK. And talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk... Yeah. Sometimes we beat dead horses. But honestly the talking is the [I]only[/I] thing that saved our marriage about 3 1/2 years back. Made us stronger, somehow. We don't talk about feelings very much, though... Unless it's about me "feeling" tired! in my opinion - if it works - why mess with it?! [/QUOTE]
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