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do you ever feel like if only you did something different?
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 125698" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I have tried to eliminate the word SHOULD from my vocabulary. </p><p></p><p>It has helped me squash tons of guilt - and I have less pity parties. </p><p></p><p>And think about it - </p><p></p><p>At the time you had a choice to do something you DID do what you THOUGHT was the right move. You, me none of us have ever thought about what we did at that moment for our kids and then did the wrong thing. </p><p></p><p>If we HAD made the decision at that moment to DO the wrong thing - THEN you could wallow in self doubt, but you wouldn't because you wouldn't have cared in the first place. </p><p></p><p>YOU DID WHAT YOU THOUGHT WAS THE RIGHT, BEST, MOST LOGICAL, LOVING, SELF SACRIFICING, good parenting decision. </p><p></p><p>Sitting back now years later and saying Shoulda, woulda, coulda - changes NOTHING. It just creates more problems. If you coulda done it better - you woulda. Because NONE of us make decisions on our life and think - well lets see THIS move would be 2nd best and not good - so I'll take that - heck no - we ALL do the best we can to make the VERY BEST decisions for ourselves. </p><p></p><p>The bad part is when you keep repeating a behavior over and over and over expecting a different outcome each time - it's also the definition of insanity. </p><p></p><p>hugs for your day. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 125698, member: 4964"] I have tried to eliminate the word SHOULD from my vocabulary. It has helped me squash tons of guilt - and I have less pity parties. And think about it - At the time you had a choice to do something you DID do what you THOUGHT was the right move. You, me none of us have ever thought about what we did at that moment for our kids and then did the wrong thing. If we HAD made the decision at that moment to DO the wrong thing - THEN you could wallow in self doubt, but you wouldn't because you wouldn't have cared in the first place. YOU DID WHAT YOU THOUGHT WAS THE RIGHT, BEST, MOST LOGICAL, LOVING, SELF SACRIFICING, good parenting decision. Sitting back now years later and saying Shoulda, woulda, coulda - changes NOTHING. It just creates more problems. If you coulda done it better - you woulda. Because NONE of us make decisions on our life and think - well lets see THIS move would be 2nd best and not good - so I'll take that - heck no - we ALL do the best we can to make the VERY BEST decisions for ourselves. The bad part is when you keep repeating a behavior over and over and over expecting a different outcome each time - it's also the definition of insanity. hugs for your day. Star [/QUOTE]
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