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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 370733" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>No, I definitely do not and everyone ITRW's wonderful advice of "you need to make some" just doesn't seem to be enough to make that happen. First of all, I have always been a single parent so it would be awkward for both married couples and me to "hang out" or go to dinner or whatever. Yet I am not the type of single parent (and never have been) that wanted to continue to live a "single" lifestyle after my son was born. I was in my 30's when he was born and early in a career so I had long since passed the age of wanting to "hang out" with single people- I was fairly settled and family oriented by that point. Then after my son's birth it seemed like taking care of him and a home and working left me with no time or energy to do anything else. I had acquaintances that I'd met at work or thru my son- mothers of his friends- and we would chat on the phone sometimes but never really had much more in common- again, they were all married and had stronger family ties to extended family members. My extended family is VERY dysfunctional and don't live in my state anyway. Then, once my son became a difficult child about age 11yo, parents seem to spend more energy trying to keep their kids away from my son and the only time I hear from them is when they are calling or coming by to tell me what they caught my son doing or to tell me they don't want my son around their kid. (Never mind that their kid was with my kid and just as guilty.) And then I started getting shunned by coworkers because they were all professional and just couldn't get that my son was a difficult child and I had no choice but to miss work to go to court, tdocs, etc. They seemed to be convinced that "if I hadn't gotten myself pregnant he would not be a difficult child". (Well, I didn't get MYSELF pregnant and I am the parent who is taking responsibility- in my humble opinion, they should blame the parent that contributed to the conception then turned his back and walked away.)</p><p></p><p>So, a resounding NO, I have no friends ITRW. And now my son wants to say that part of his illegal activity has stemmed from me not having a life. Really?</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for this opportunity to vent about this!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 370733, member: 3699"] No, I definitely do not and everyone ITRW's wonderful advice of "you need to make some" just doesn't seem to be enough to make that happen. First of all, I have always been a single parent so it would be awkward for both married couples and me to "hang out" or go to dinner or whatever. Yet I am not the type of single parent (and never have been) that wanted to continue to live a "single" lifestyle after my son was born. I was in my 30's when he was born and early in a career so I had long since passed the age of wanting to "hang out" with single people- I was fairly settled and family oriented by that point. Then after my son's birth it seemed like taking care of him and a home and working left me with no time or energy to do anything else. I had acquaintances that I'd met at work or thru my son- mothers of his friends- and we would chat on the phone sometimes but never really had much more in common- again, they were all married and had stronger family ties to extended family members. My extended family is VERY dysfunctional and don't live in my state anyway. Then, once my son became a difficult child about age 11yo, parents seem to spend more energy trying to keep their kids away from my son and the only time I hear from them is when they are calling or coming by to tell me what they caught my son doing or to tell me they don't want my son around their kid. (Never mind that their kid was with my kid and just as guilty.) And then I started getting shunned by coworkers because they were all professional and just couldn't get that my son was a difficult child and I had no choice but to miss work to go to court, tdocs, etc. They seemed to be convinced that "if I hadn't gotten myself pregnant he would not be a difficult child". (Well, I didn't get MYSELF pregnant and I am the parent who is taking responsibility- in my humble opinion, they should blame the parent that contributed to the conception then turned his back and walked away.) So, a resounding NO, I have no friends ITRW. And now my son wants to say that part of his illegal activity has stemmed from me not having a life. Really? Thank you so much for this opportunity to vent about this!! [/QUOTE]
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