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do you talk to your difficult child about their diagnosis or symptoms?
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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 462983" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>I've always discussed stuff with the kids as differences in they way their brains work. I only told son about his specific diagnosis when he was 11-12. At first he was a bit upset, but then I explained that nothing has changed about HIM. Once he wrapped his head around that, he felt better because he had an easily identifiable explanation for his specific "issues" Now, the diagnosis is always there, but we still discuss the symptoms as symptoms and a difference between him and the "rest of the world"</p><p></p><p>With DD1 it was slightly different, but we still focus more on the symptoms, and since her symptoms affect her thought processes, we make a point to separate HER from her symptoms. SHE's not having these bad thoughts, this disease is GIVING her these bad thoughts. Her actions, on the other hand are all on her. SHE needs to learn to control her responses to these thoughts and take responsibility for the results. The older she gets, the more she is held accountable for her actions. IOW, she does get to use her disease as an explanation for her actions (I don't know, I couldn't help it, I was thinking crazy, etc) but it's never an excuse, and we go on from there looking for more coping mechanisms and strategies.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 462983, member: 11965"] I've always discussed stuff with the kids as differences in they way their brains work. I only told son about his specific diagnosis when he was 11-12. At first he was a bit upset, but then I explained that nothing has changed about HIM. Once he wrapped his head around that, he felt better because he had an easily identifiable explanation for his specific "issues" Now, the diagnosis is always there, but we still discuss the symptoms as symptoms and a difference between him and the "rest of the world" With DD1 it was slightly different, but we still focus more on the symptoms, and since her symptoms affect her thought processes, we make a point to separate HER from her symptoms. SHE's not having these bad thoughts, this disease is GIVING her these bad thoughts. Her actions, on the other hand are all on her. SHE needs to learn to control her responses to these thoughts and take responsibility for the results. The older she gets, the more she is held accountable for her actions. IOW, she does get to use her disease as an explanation for her actions (I don't know, I couldn't help it, I was thinking crazy, etc) but it's never an excuse, and we go on from there looking for more coping mechanisms and strategies. [/QUOTE]
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