Just wondering if anyone else is dealing with this issue....I can totally handle meltdowns due to anxiety, I get that, even the tantrums when she is angry over not getting her way make sense to me. But what on earth makes her TRY to annoy everyone and smirk about it when she manages to make someone angry?? Often in these situations she is even smirking or full out grinning when she gets in trouble for it. This is the behavior I have the hardest time dealing with because it seems so intentional and under her control. She does it to all of us, for example; this morning we were a bit rushed and I was trying very hard to get her to calmly cooperate with me and get ready but instead she was completely ignoring and defying me, dancing around smirking at me, running from me. When I finally lost my patience and went from nicely asking her to cooperate to raising my voice and telling her she would get a mark on her chart (yes the dreaded behavior chart LoL) she actually laughed and decided it was time to jump on her bed. At this point easy child 1 intervened because sometimes difficult child listens to her better than husband or me & somehow got her into her clothes while she was still dancing around. She went to school without her hair done or teeth brushed and she honestly didn't seem to care a bit. These moods are so infuriating and so in contrast with her need for structure to alleviate anxiety....I honestly can't wrap my brain around it. This was just a mild example by the way often it is things like pinching her sisters or pulling their hair and running away laughing, taking their stuff and hiding it (then telling them she did it & refusing to give it back). It just really disturbs me how much enjoyment she seems to get out of this and that punishment does not phase her at all when she's in one of these moods. Anyone have any insight?