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Does anyone ever wonder if the professionals REALLY know what is wrong with our kids?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 530868" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I don't know if I won't quantify it as "trust" for the professionals, though in some cases it clearly IS a matter of trust and I DON't trust some of them at all! Let me give some examples of our road:</p><p></p><p>With difficult child#1 who is 20 now - at 5 when I began with her it was with her primary care doctor and he hadn't a clue what as going on nor did he know where or who to refer me to for her as I sat in his office in tears. He was, however, clearly invested in my concerns and trusted me and didn't judge or jump to conclusions that I was an abusive parent at all. Thank god because over the next several years I would need him as back up to prove through different times of trials and tribulations that she wasn't as she lied (a case during "sharing" in psychiatric hospital inpatient group therapy), another with a rogue school therapist who didn't like that I filed a complaint against him who in turned filed a false allegation against me (had not only dr but advocate back me up and prove what he did as well as difficult child's own medical records), etc.</p><p></p><p>Moving on, she has seen numerous psychiatrists and Tdocs as well as counselors over the years. These docs threw so many different medications at her it's incredible. The only ones that worked were to help with her ADHD component of symptoms. The rest paradoxed or created far worse problems. Counselors have been so far off base in their recommendations of how to handle her (lots of bad parenting or "try this" when we've already done so, or just flat out bad advise "your 16, the best thing you can do is move out!????" really?)</p><p></p><p>With difficult child#2 - Pretty much along the same lines except NONE of them have been able to figure her out at all, notta, zip not even close to what's going on. Same type of advise given. No one can reach her in counseling as she won't even talk and the worst part is in one case they continued with her not even talking for 2 years!! Who continues on with it for that long if you are going no where??? Again, medication ADHD control and mildly sleep help but not great as she doesn't fully get sleep like it's suppose to do. Everything else we've had serious problems with from toxicity issues to paradox. Mostly bad issues of toxicity. Not watching doses or testing, etc. Oh yeah, in older difficult child case one psychiatrist didn't do lithium testing for 3 months! You are suppose to test level minimally once a month!</p><p></p><p>With youngest difficult child- a little better result because he's a little easier. ADHD medication pretty much dead on good results and sleep medications help him. No help for behavioral effects from food allergy, I had to figure out combination of medications to help with that and only sometimes can it work right the first time. I "think" we are close in diagnosis for him but again, he's pretty straigh forward in what's going on as in "easy" to figure out. As for therapy....well he has not had consistency nor continuity at all. In fact he has had the LEAST consistency out of the 3 of them. I don't know why all his workers have been a problem or have had issues but they have and therefor I think has lead to why he hasn't been helped to the level I think he could have been as he WILL work the program if he has consistency and I can only do so much with him. With support for and with me, he does very well. Without, he faulters.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, and I think I've said it before, this board has given me more of a life and information and help then I've been able to get in all these years from professionals (sans the medications that need prescribing and even at that it's given me directions to seek certain types at times). There is such a broad base of REAL life situations that apply that are like my difficult children that I can see and say "hey, that's like mine maybe, just maybe this is that or I can try this". The professionals seem to stick to the books or what ever the run of the mill at the time is going on I think.</p><p></p><p>Any more I use the professionals as my "support" team and backup and have them there for prescribing and paper trail so that when the time comes, and it usually does, I have the paperwork to prove that yes....these kids do have issues and here is the proof! Always have to cya because if you don't.....ugh...been there done that and no more will I ever not do it again...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 530868, member: 455"] I don't know if I won't quantify it as "trust" for the professionals, though in some cases it clearly IS a matter of trust and I DON't trust some of them at all! Let me give some examples of our road: With difficult child#1 who is 20 now - at 5 when I began with her it was with her primary care doctor and he hadn't a clue what as going on nor did he know where or who to refer me to for her as I sat in his office in tears. He was, however, clearly invested in my concerns and trusted me and didn't judge or jump to conclusions that I was an abusive parent at all. Thank god because over the next several years I would need him as back up to prove through different times of trials and tribulations that she wasn't as she lied (a case during "sharing" in psychiatric hospital inpatient group therapy), another with a rogue school therapist who didn't like that I filed a complaint against him who in turned filed a false allegation against me (had not only dr but advocate back me up and prove what he did as well as difficult child's own medical records), etc. Moving on, she has seen numerous psychiatrists and Tdocs as well as counselors over the years. These docs threw so many different medications at her it's incredible. The only ones that worked were to help with her ADHD component of symptoms. The rest paradoxed or created far worse problems. Counselors have been so far off base in their recommendations of how to handle her (lots of bad parenting or "try this" when we've already done so, or just flat out bad advise "your 16, the best thing you can do is move out!????" really?) With difficult child#2 - Pretty much along the same lines except NONE of them have been able to figure her out at all, notta, zip not even close to what's going on. Same type of advise given. No one can reach her in counseling as she won't even talk and the worst part is in one case they continued with her not even talking for 2 years!! Who continues on with it for that long if you are going no where??? Again, medication ADHD control and mildly sleep help but not great as she doesn't fully get sleep like it's suppose to do. Everything else we've had serious problems with from toxicity issues to paradox. Mostly bad issues of toxicity. Not watching doses or testing, etc. Oh yeah, in older difficult child case one psychiatrist didn't do lithium testing for 3 months! You are suppose to test level minimally once a month! With youngest difficult child- a little better result because he's a little easier. ADHD medication pretty much dead on good results and sleep medications help him. No help for behavioral effects from food allergy, I had to figure out combination of medications to help with that and only sometimes can it work right the first time. I "think" we are close in diagnosis for him but again, he's pretty straigh forward in what's going on as in "easy" to figure out. As for therapy....well he has not had consistency nor continuity at all. In fact he has had the LEAST consistency out of the 3 of them. I don't know why all his workers have been a problem or have had issues but they have and therefor I think has lead to why he hasn't been helped to the level I think he could have been as he WILL work the program if he has consistency and I can only do so much with him. With support for and with me, he does very well. Without, he faulters. Bottom line, and I think I've said it before, this board has given me more of a life and information and help then I've been able to get in all these years from professionals (sans the medications that need prescribing and even at that it's given me directions to seek certain types at times). There is such a broad base of REAL life situations that apply that are like my difficult children that I can see and say "hey, that's like mine maybe, just maybe this is that or I can try this". The professionals seem to stick to the books or what ever the run of the mill at the time is going on I think. Any more I use the professionals as my "support" team and backup and have them there for prescribing and paper trail so that when the time comes, and it usually does, I have the paperwork to prove that yes....these kids do have issues and here is the proof! Always have to cya because if you don't.....ugh...been there done that and no more will I ever not do it again... [/QUOTE]
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