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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 386190" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p>I have two thoughts:</p><p></p><p>1. As a dyslexic, I grew up with very little self esteem, so I can confirm that a child with little self esteem will not believe their parents when they tell them how talented or smart they are. You are the parent, you are supposed to say those things. Where ever you can you need to prove it. </p><p>- Your math score was 85, the average was only 72.</p><p>- Look at the detailed level of your drawing and compare that to the others. See yours has more shape and shading.</p><p>- You could remember 23 different things that happened, Uncle Phil could only remember 12. (Comparing against an adult who can not do as well is always worth more)</p><p></p><p>Don't just say, you are smart, talented, quick. State WHY. </p><p></p><p>2. One technique we find useful, with getting difficult child to help us understand what is going on, is called, "Reflecting". You verbally repeat what they said, or you state an observation you have made. Example: You say something like, "You are angry because you think the kids a school are going to tease you about ..." . Then difficult child responds something like, "No I am frustrated because ...." (The beauty of reflection is that if you guess wrong they usually correct you. It seems to be easier to correct you then to find the words to say in the first place).</p><p></p><p>-</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 386190, member: 6557"] I have two thoughts: 1. As a dyslexic, I grew up with very little self esteem, so I can confirm that a child with little self esteem will not believe their parents when they tell them how talented or smart they are. You are the parent, you are supposed to say those things. Where ever you can you need to prove it. - Your math score was 85, the average was only 72. - Look at the detailed level of your drawing and compare that to the others. See yours has more shape and shading. - You could remember 23 different things that happened, Uncle Phil could only remember 12. (Comparing against an adult who can not do as well is always worth more) Don't just say, you are smart, talented, quick. State WHY. 2. One technique we find useful, with getting difficult child to help us understand what is going on, is called, "Reflecting". You verbally repeat what they said, or you state an observation you have made. Example: You say something like, "You are angry because you think the kids a school are going to tease you about ..." . Then difficult child responds something like, "No I am frustrated because ...." (The beauty of reflection is that if you guess wrong they usually correct you. It seems to be easier to correct you then to find the words to say in the first place). - [/QUOTE]
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