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Does anyone's difficult child say/do something, then lies about it, for no reason...explain more in post
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<blockquote data-quote="PlainJane" data-source="post: 649517" data-attributes="member: 11700"><p>My difficult child is almost 8. I have been coming here on and off since he was diagnosed at 2 with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Also ADHD. There are anxiety / Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) issues, without official diagnose. He is currently on 1mg on intuniv. It helps take the edge off.</p><p></p><p>But he has always had an issue with opposites and fighting (verbally) since he could talk. He would say he wanted to watch Elmo. We'd put Elmo on and he'd meltdown saying he wanted to watch Thomas the Train. So we'd switch the dvd, and he melt down that he wanted to watch Elmo. This went on daily about many things, food, clothing. etc....he was never "happy". And refuse to change the DVD...and he would meltdown. Nothing made him happy. Typical kids want you give in. difficult child just wanted to fight.</p><p></p><p>At 8 it is still present but in a concerning way.</p><p></p><p>Example: difficult child is eating eggs and doesn't care for how they are cooked. Says "I really don't like these" and he's usually not even rude about it, so hubby is says "that's fine, you don't have to eat them."...difficult child then gets angry, "But I like them! I want to eat them!"...So hubby says, "ok eat them then, but you just said you didn't like them"...and difficult child says "I didn't say that, I said I like them!"....</p><p></p><p>This goes one ALL DAY. WE are GOING CRAZY...not to mention our typical 4 year old is really having trouble with this. difficult child denies he says things, denies reality, just to have this weird opposite fight.</p><p></p><p>4 y/o says "I want to play game A"...difficult child says "I don't. I want to play game B"...4 y/o says "well, I don't want to play game B, I want to play game A"...difficult child says "Why don't you want to play game A? That's what I want to play, Game A. Why don't you?".....</p><p></p><p>Did you see what he did there? 4 y/o is at the point that he physically attacks difficult child after those types of interactions. Even when we step in, difficult child says "I never said I wanted to play Game B. I wanted to play game A, and 4 y/o was the one that wanted game B."...We all heard what happened, he's fooling no one, there's no issue of lying to stop punishment (not wanting to play game B would not result in punishment)</p><p></p><p>Even if we tell difficult child we know he's lying, he continues to lie.</p><p></p><p>Doctor knows, going to meet with another social behavior person in 2 weeks about this.</p><p></p><p>Before breakfast today (20 minutes) I counted 4 incidents of this. No purpose to the lying. Sometimes is started by difficult child. He makes a statement: "I don't want to wear that shirt"...So I respond "pick out another" and he gets angry, "But I want to wear that shirt!" The same one he just said he didn't want to wear...</p><p></p><p>But if I reply with "No you have to wear that one" He gets angry, "But I don't want to."</p><p></p><p>The doctor is stumped on this behavior. She thinks its some kind of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) thing. I can't find anything on the internet about it. No one seems to know what this is.</p><p></p><p>Please anyone have experience with this???</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PlainJane, post: 649517, member: 11700"] My difficult child is almost 8. I have been coming here on and off since he was diagnosed at 2 with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Also ADHD. There are anxiety / Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) issues, without official diagnose. He is currently on 1mg on intuniv. It helps take the edge off. But he has always had an issue with opposites and fighting (verbally) since he could talk. He would say he wanted to watch Elmo. We'd put Elmo on and he'd meltdown saying he wanted to watch Thomas the Train. So we'd switch the dvd, and he melt down that he wanted to watch Elmo. This went on daily about many things, food, clothing. etc....he was never "happy". And refuse to change the DVD...and he would meltdown. Nothing made him happy. Typical kids want you give in. difficult child just wanted to fight. At 8 it is still present but in a concerning way. Example: difficult child is eating eggs and doesn't care for how they are cooked. Says "I really don't like these" and he's usually not even rude about it, so hubby is says "that's fine, you don't have to eat them."...difficult child then gets angry, "But I like them! I want to eat them!"...So hubby says, "ok eat them then, but you just said you didn't like them"...and difficult child says "I didn't say that, I said I like them!".... This goes one ALL DAY. WE are GOING CRAZY...not to mention our typical 4 year old is really having trouble with this. difficult child denies he says things, denies reality, just to have this weird opposite fight. 4 y/o says "I want to play game A"...difficult child says "I don't. I want to play game B"...4 y/o says "well, I don't want to play game B, I want to play game A"...difficult child says "Why don't you want to play game A? That's what I want to play, Game A. Why don't you?"..... Did you see what he did there? 4 y/o is at the point that he physically attacks difficult child after those types of interactions. Even when we step in, difficult child says "I never said I wanted to play Game B. I wanted to play game A, and 4 y/o was the one that wanted game B."...We all heard what happened, he's fooling no one, there's no issue of lying to stop punishment (not wanting to play game B would not result in punishment) Even if we tell difficult child we know he's lying, he continues to lie. Doctor knows, going to meet with another social behavior person in 2 weeks about this. Before breakfast today (20 minutes) I counted 4 incidents of this. No purpose to the lying. Sometimes is started by difficult child. He makes a statement: "I don't want to wear that shirt"...So I respond "pick out another" and he gets angry, "But I want to wear that shirt!" The same one he just said he didn't want to wear... But if I reply with "No you have to wear that one" He gets angry, "But I don't want to." The doctor is stumped on this behavior. She thinks its some kind of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) thing. I can't find anything on the internet about it. No one seems to know what this is. Please anyone have experience with this??? [/QUOTE]
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