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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 513784" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from...</p><p></p><p>When difficult child was around 9, the therapist we were working with at the time suggested making difficult child the center of everything...that she would be happiest if we gave her the first, the largest and the best of everything (and this was suggested right in front of our then 6-year-old DS). IOW - if we were serving ice cream, we needed to be sure to give difficult child the largest bowl and make sure to give it to her first. THEN, and only then, would difficult child be assured of our love because then (in difficult child's mind) everything would "be as it should be".</p><p></p><p>I STILL think that therapist is nuts.</p><p></p><p>To my way of thinking, that sets DS up for a lifetime of being "not as good" or "not as important" as his sister. To have him always sacrifice the time, attention, activities and playthings in deference to difficult child's wants and needs. (And there's enough of that happening by default as it is).</p><p></p><p>difficult child, like it or not, cannot expect to be the center of everything all the time. That's just life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 513784, member: 6546"] I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from... When difficult child was around 9, the therapist we were working with at the time suggested making difficult child the center of everything...that she would be happiest if we gave her the first, the largest and the best of everything (and this was suggested right in front of our then 6-year-old DS). IOW - if we were serving ice cream, we needed to be sure to give difficult child the largest bowl and make sure to give it to her first. THEN, and only then, would difficult child be assured of our love because then (in difficult child's mind) everything would "be as it should be". I STILL think that therapist is nuts. To my way of thinking, that sets DS up for a lifetime of being "not as good" or "not as important" as his sister. To have him always sacrifice the time, attention, activities and playthings in deference to difficult child's wants and needs. (And there's enough of that happening by default as it is). difficult child, like it or not, cannot expect to be the center of everything all the time. That's just life. [/QUOTE]
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