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<blockquote data-quote="KTMom91" data-source="post: 697590" data-attributes="member: 4040"><p>Ten years ago, I could have written basically the same post, MommaK. During that time, I was sleeping during the day when no one was home, because my darling daughter had made reference to sticking a knife in my back. She had torn her bedroom door off the hinges and thrown it at me. It was hell. I did call the police on her, and it seemed to make an impression.</p><p></p><p>We pretty much put her on lockdown for awhile. Took her phone/electronics away at 9 pm. I got an order from her doctor, and surprise drug tested/pregnancy tested her. She is needle phobic, so I'll admit I got a strange pleasure from hearing her screaming at the lab. I also made sure logical consequences would HURT. BAD. We'd told her we would replace her phone once if it was accidentally broken. After that, it was her problem. She failed Biology and ended up with Zero Period PE. 6:30 am in the winter. I reminded her often that it was NOT MY PROBLEM. She sold the bus pass we bought her - we're about 2 1/2 miles from the high school. She walked. She threw away the bag lunches I made (I made lunches for all of us, like an assembly line) so she didn't eat. Didn't like what I was cooking? Go scramble an egg. </p><p></p><p>Definitely check to see if she is medication compliant and if her medications are correct. Also find out at what age (in your state) they can legally refuse mental health treatment. In California, it's 12. Fortunately, she never knew that. I tied medication compliance and grades (C average required) to driving, and pretty much anything she wanted to do. You can get a motion sensor alarm at Harbor Freight and set it up so it goes off when the beam is crossed (Hubby did that when I started taking Ambien, so he could hear if I headed out of the bedroom sleepwalking/eating/driving). </p><p></p><p>Good luck. It is not easy or pleasant, I know. Keep in mind that logical consequences are the best teachers, and if she is unhappy or uncomfortable because of her own actions, it is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KTMom91, post: 697590, member: 4040"] Ten years ago, I could have written basically the same post, MommaK. During that time, I was sleeping during the day when no one was home, because my darling daughter had made reference to sticking a knife in my back. She had torn her bedroom door off the hinges and thrown it at me. It was hell. I did call the police on her, and it seemed to make an impression. We pretty much put her on lockdown for awhile. Took her phone/electronics away at 9 pm. I got an order from her doctor, and surprise drug tested/pregnancy tested her. She is needle phobic, so I'll admit I got a strange pleasure from hearing her screaming at the lab. I also made sure logical consequences would HURT. BAD. We'd told her we would replace her phone once if it was accidentally broken. After that, it was her problem. She failed Biology and ended up with Zero Period PE. 6:30 am in the winter. I reminded her often that it was NOT MY PROBLEM. She sold the bus pass we bought her - we're about 2 1/2 miles from the high school. She walked. She threw away the bag lunches I made (I made lunches for all of us, like an assembly line) so she didn't eat. Didn't like what I was cooking? Go scramble an egg. Definitely check to see if she is medication compliant and if her medications are correct. Also find out at what age (in your state) they can legally refuse mental health treatment. In California, it's 12. Fortunately, she never knew that. I tied medication compliance and grades (C average required) to driving, and pretty much anything she wanted to do. You can get a motion sensor alarm at Harbor Freight and set it up so it goes off when the beam is crossed (Hubby did that when I started taking Ambien, so he could hear if I headed out of the bedroom sleepwalking/eating/driving). Good luck. It is not easy or pleasant, I know. Keep in mind that logical consequences are the best teachers, and if she is unhappy or uncomfortable because of her own actions, it is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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