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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 588244" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>I think I have been the only one on this board who let their difficult child still live at home during all his craziness (I joined when he was 14). I had to go with my gut feeling that if I gave him time for his emotional age to catch up with his actual age things would work out - I wasn't willing to take the chance of putting him and his crazy self out to the curb. Maybe it was due to me being an X-difficult child and things that would wig out others, I was laid back about. I don't know. And the strange thing is I left home at 17, went 3,500 miles, had no support except for an abusive boyfriend, and had a baby to boot, and I managed to succeed, but saying that, I didn't have alcohol problems or mental health issues that really impacted my life </p><p></p><p>I figured there was going to be a lot of drama with him either way. But his mid 20's, he started getting his act together. Has his own computer repair business, works at a full time job as well, and is living on his own and taking care of his business. He drinks way to much, and still is a total pot head, but these are his problems to deal with now and he knows that.</p><p></p><p>My eldest is another story. If she told you the sun set in the west, I would have to go outside and check it for myself. Nothing that comes out of her mouth is the truth - personally I think she has some kind of personality disorder. I hung in there with her a few years ago, took her and her kids in when once again she ended up living with someone once again that had a drug problem, and I did get caught up in her drama. She has had years of therapy, nothing that sunk in and nothing that made an impact. I currently have no relationship with her, nor would I ever take her in again. I never felt any fear with my youngest difficult child, but I do with the oldest as I now know what she is capable of. </p><p></p><p>Its a hard call, and I guess it is down to how much you can personally handle but at some point their life is their own to own. I figure at 43 this year my eldest is never going to get a clue as she still has a love of drama.</p><p></p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 588244, member: 47"] I think I have been the only one on this board who let their difficult child still live at home during all his craziness (I joined when he was 14). I had to go with my gut feeling that if I gave him time for his emotional age to catch up with his actual age things would work out - I wasn't willing to take the chance of putting him and his crazy self out to the curb. Maybe it was due to me being an X-difficult child and things that would wig out others, I was laid back about. I don't know. And the strange thing is I left home at 17, went 3,500 miles, had no support except for an abusive boyfriend, and had a baby to boot, and I managed to succeed, but saying that, I didn't have alcohol problems or mental health issues that really impacted my life I figured there was going to be a lot of drama with him either way. But his mid 20's, he started getting his act together. Has his own computer repair business, works at a full time job as well, and is living on his own and taking care of his business. He drinks way to much, and still is a total pot head, but these are his problems to deal with now and he knows that. My eldest is another story. If she told you the sun set in the west, I would have to go outside and check it for myself. Nothing that comes out of her mouth is the truth - personally I think she has some kind of personality disorder. I hung in there with her a few years ago, took her and her kids in when once again she ended up living with someone once again that had a drug problem, and I did get caught up in her drama. She has had years of therapy, nothing that sunk in and nothing that made an impact. I currently have no relationship with her, nor would I ever take her in again. I never felt any fear with my youngest difficult child, but I do with the oldest as I now know what she is capable of. Its a hard call, and I guess it is down to how much you can personally handle but at some point their life is their own to own. I figure at 43 this year my eldest is never going to get a clue as she still has a love of drama. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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