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Yesterday easy child and difficult child were doing their homework at the same time, which is unusual, because difficult child usually does his after dinner. difficult child was in the dining room and easy child was in the kitchen. I was sitting with easy child and he was asking me a question and difficult child starts screaming, "SHUT UP!!!! MOM, YOU TELL HIM TO SHUT UP!! I'M DOING MY HOMEWORK!!!!! HE'S SUCH AN IDIOT!!! HOW COME I HAVE TO WIND UP WITH A STUPID LITTLE IDIOT FOR A BROTHER" and this continued for about a half an hour. He finally quieted down (when he finished his homework and went upstairs) and easy child was able to finish his work on peace.
After he was done he went up to his room to play on his Xbox. He closed and locked his door because he didn't want difficult child coming in and bothering him (difficult child thinks that it's perfectly alright to barge right in and bother easy child, but if easy child does that to him he screams so loud that you think the world was ending). difficult child hears him go up and starts knocking on his door, asking to play with him. easy child says no. difficult child completely loses it. Screaming that easy child has to play with him, he needs easy child to play with him, if easy child doesn't play with him it means that easy child doesn't love him and that's what he's been telling everyone all along. On and on and on. I told him that easy child didn't want to play with him because he spent quite a while screaming at him and telling easy child that easy child was an idiot, and that no one wanted to play with someone who called him names. If you want easy child to be nice to you, you need to try to be nice to easy child and telling him that he's stupid and an idiot is not exactly the best way to go about it. So difficult child starts up with, "easy child hates me!! I know he hates me!!!!!" I tried to explain to him that it's hard to love someone who does nothing but yell at you and call you names.
Then he turns on me. "You seem to know alot about hating people!! You must hate me, too!!! Don't deny it!! I know you do!!"
Then I suggested that he take a walk down to Gram's house. Gram is husband's mother and she lives around the corner from us. Lately, when he's upset he calls down to her house and if they're home and she says it's okay, he will walk down there and cool off. When he comes home he's in a much better mood. So, I suggested he go down there and he starts screaming, "What?? You're throwing me out now?? Is that what you're doing?"
Truly, he was just way too far gone to be reached in any way. Eventually, easy child did let him in, difficult child told him whatever it was that he wanted to tell him, and he did eventually walk down to Gram's house. Gram told me that they were talking about going out to dinner and I told her that under no circumstances could she take difficult child out with them. After the way he behaved he was not going to get rewarded by getting to go out to dinner. If he wanted dinner he could come home and eat what I was cooking. She brought him on on their way out and he seemed to be in a better mood.
Then he got up this morning and seemed to be exactly where he was when he threw his fit yesterday afternoon.
I hope that a six hour day at school cools his jets because I am NOT going to be happy if he comes home like that.
After he was done he went up to his room to play on his Xbox. He closed and locked his door because he didn't want difficult child coming in and bothering him (difficult child thinks that it's perfectly alright to barge right in and bother easy child, but if easy child does that to him he screams so loud that you think the world was ending). difficult child hears him go up and starts knocking on his door, asking to play with him. easy child says no. difficult child completely loses it. Screaming that easy child has to play with him, he needs easy child to play with him, if easy child doesn't play with him it means that easy child doesn't love him and that's what he's been telling everyone all along. On and on and on. I told him that easy child didn't want to play with him because he spent quite a while screaming at him and telling easy child that easy child was an idiot, and that no one wanted to play with someone who called him names. If you want easy child to be nice to you, you need to try to be nice to easy child and telling him that he's stupid and an idiot is not exactly the best way to go about it. So difficult child starts up with, "easy child hates me!! I know he hates me!!!!!" I tried to explain to him that it's hard to love someone who does nothing but yell at you and call you names.
Then he turns on me. "You seem to know alot about hating people!! You must hate me, too!!! Don't deny it!! I know you do!!"
Then I suggested that he take a walk down to Gram's house. Gram is husband's mother and she lives around the corner from us. Lately, when he's upset he calls down to her house and if they're home and she says it's okay, he will walk down there and cool off. When he comes home he's in a much better mood. So, I suggested he go down there and he starts screaming, "What?? You're throwing me out now?? Is that what you're doing?"
Truly, he was just way too far gone to be reached in any way. Eventually, easy child did let him in, difficult child told him whatever it was that he wanted to tell him, and he did eventually walk down to Gram's house. Gram told me that they were talking about going out to dinner and I told her that under no circumstances could she take difficult child out with them. After the way he behaved he was not going to get rewarded by getting to go out to dinner. If he wanted dinner he could come home and eat what I was cooking. She brought him on on their way out and he seemed to be in a better mood.
Then he got up this morning and seemed to be exactly where he was when he threw his fit yesterday afternoon.
I hope that a six hour day at school cools his jets because I am NOT going to be happy if he comes home like that.
