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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 215253" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>This a time that logical consequences should rule. Take an index card and write the highest temp the heat can go, and the lowest it can go. Tape it up by the thermostat. </p><p> </p><p>Then tell Wynter that the thermostat is HER responsibility. If it is set higher or lower than the temp, then SHE will have to do a chore to pay for the extra cost of the electricity. DO NOT let her off the hook with "X did it" or whining about the chore. If she has a tantrum, wait until it is over and then have her do the chore. She will try to wear you down, but just ignore her tantrums adn whining. Wear HER out. Go to the Love and Logic book or website and look up the "broken record" technique. use it on her.</p><p> </p><p>Then, if she is cold simply say, "Oh, you will feel so much better when you are warmer." DO NOT offer suggestions. Make sure that the thermostat has a significant consequence, and don't back down. But ask HER how to solve her problem. She is a teenager. Part of that is knowing EVERYTHING and knowing your parents know NOTHING. Some of the sock/shirts things are probably sensory. But make sure she has teh sweatshirts and maybe sweatpants (if the elastic on the bottom bugs her take it out). And if you know she has plenty of things to make her warm, then ignore her fussing.</p><p> </p><p>Let HER find a solution, but make sure she knows she cannot get away with making the rest of you miserable. (when she whines the phrase my mom used to use comes in handy "If you are going to howl, go howl in the hall." - only use whining and her room.)</p><p> </p><p>Sorry this is such a battle. If you absolutely can't get her to leave the thermostat alone, go to the hardware store and get one of the boxes restaurants use to cover the thermostats so that customers can't change them. Then she won't be able to change the thermostat and boil you and make your heat bill outrageous.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 215253, member: 1233"] This a time that logical consequences should rule. Take an index card and write the highest temp the heat can go, and the lowest it can go. Tape it up by the thermostat. Then tell Wynter that the thermostat is HER responsibility. If it is set higher or lower than the temp, then SHE will have to do a chore to pay for the extra cost of the electricity. DO NOT let her off the hook with "X did it" or whining about the chore. If she has a tantrum, wait until it is over and then have her do the chore. She will try to wear you down, but just ignore her tantrums adn whining. Wear HER out. Go to the Love and Logic book or website and look up the "broken record" technique. use it on her. Then, if she is cold simply say, "Oh, you will feel so much better when you are warmer." DO NOT offer suggestions. Make sure that the thermostat has a significant consequence, and don't back down. But ask HER how to solve her problem. She is a teenager. Part of that is knowing EVERYTHING and knowing your parents know NOTHING. Some of the sock/shirts things are probably sensory. But make sure she has teh sweatshirts and maybe sweatpants (if the elastic on the bottom bugs her take it out). And if you know she has plenty of things to make her warm, then ignore her fussing. Let HER find a solution, but make sure she knows she cannot get away with making the rest of you miserable. (when she whines the phrase my mom used to use comes in handy "If you are going to howl, go howl in the hall." - only use whining and her room.) Sorry this is such a battle. If you absolutely can't get her to leave the thermostat alone, go to the hardware store and get one of the boxes restaurants use to cover the thermostats so that customers can't change them. Then she won't be able to change the thermostat and boil you and make your heat bill outrageous. Hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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