Star, my concerns are - if Dog A doesn't know boundaries, then other dogs in the household, Dog B and Dog C (plus the rest of the alphabet) would be similarly socialised (ie not).
I quite understand that they may feel the dog is not a risk, especially if kept away from babies and perhaps given another home where it CAN be taught proper position in the pecking order. They may be right - but I wouldn't be trusting that dog again around small children, especially unattended small children.
I've grown up with dogs. I also had some dealings with Aussie working dogs and they are animals I would NEVER have around an unattended small child. When I was little I was very nervous about any dogs that were not our own, because they didn't know me and I was very small compared to the folk those dogs were used to. And farm dogs - I was especially nervous, because they only looked to the farmer, not to anyone else.
I also noted that it wasn't a matter of genetics, it was purely the upbringing of the dogs. We bred dogs and often sold them to friends and neighbours. The dogs we kept were well-behaved (except for our first one sometimes, who had been an "only" dog for a while and resented the other dogs, was jealous of any attention they got from us). But there were two families (couples, actually, they had no kids of their own) whose dogs, from our brood stock, were horrid little yappy critturs that would snap at strangers and take your arm off. Their owners thought this was cute. Whenever we visited these people the dogs had to be locked up and even then you could hear them snarling thorugh the shed door every time someone went near. The few times we visited when the dog was in te yard or the owner had the dog on the leash - we had to stay out of range and even when the dog misbehaved, the owner wouldn't chastise it, they would just tell people, "He's very protective of me. But he wouldn't hurt a fly."
Yeah, right.
Meanwhile littermates of those snarling horrors were the loveliest, nicest-natured animals that you could trust with your child, no problem.
When I was a baby my parents let the family dog babysit me. He was a Shepherd/Lab cross, a big dog. My mother said that I would be in the play pen in the front yard and no stranger would set foot inside thta gate. But she could let me crawl all over that dog, I would pull his ears, wiggle his teeth - I have a clear memory of trying to get a grip on his tongue with my fingers, but it was too slippery. And the dog just sat there and let me torment him.
Dogs need not be a danger. But they nneed to be properly socialised to a baby and also need to know that they are dogs and people are people. They have to know their place and have a firm hand.
Marg