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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 634399" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>JKW you don't ever have to justify your actions around here. I think you did the only healthy thing you could do, there is only so much of this insane behavior that we can really take. At 33 years old your son is a man, he can get himself on medications, he can get help for himself, but like most of our kids, they prefer the dramatic, traumatic, insane, dangerous lifestyle, the same one which turns our hair grey overnight. You did everything you could and more, you've done enough, Let it go now.</p><p></p><p>There is no reason to feel guilty, you can let that go too. You've done all you could, there is nothing else you could have done that is a healthy choice. Put it all aside for this evening and take care of YOU now. Tomorrow make yourself the priority, do kind and nurturing things for yourself, just for tonight and tomorrow. Put difficult child aside, make you the focus. Then the day after tomorrow make the same choice once again, each day, make the choice to make yourself the priority, make yourself the focus, do something kind and nourishing for yourself every single day.</p><p></p><p>Don't answer the phone for a day or two or a week. Don't respond. Make boundaries around his behavior. In particular if he is abusive to you, which he is, hang up or get away from him. You do not deserve that. Don't allow him to treat you with anything but respect. Put boundaries around yourself and your property. He is way too old to be acting like such an ass. Don't allow it.</p><p></p><p>Take deep breaths and exhale the guilt. Stick to your guns about the phone. Learn how to let go. Don't second guess yourself, you did the right thing. Take care of YOU now. Sending you warm wishes and hugs for your wounded heart..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 634399, member: 13542"] JKW you don't ever have to justify your actions around here. I think you did the only healthy thing you could do, there is only so much of this insane behavior that we can really take. At 33 years old your son is a man, he can get himself on medications, he can get help for himself, but like most of our kids, they prefer the dramatic, traumatic, insane, dangerous lifestyle, the same one which turns our hair grey overnight. You did everything you could and more, you've done enough, Let it go now. There is no reason to feel guilty, you can let that go too. You've done all you could, there is nothing else you could have done that is a healthy choice. Put it all aside for this evening and take care of YOU now. Tomorrow make yourself the priority, do kind and nurturing things for yourself, just for tonight and tomorrow. Put difficult child aside, make you the focus. Then the day after tomorrow make the same choice once again, each day, make the choice to make yourself the priority, make yourself the focus, do something kind and nourishing for yourself every single day. Don't answer the phone for a day or two or a week. Don't respond. Make boundaries around his behavior. In particular if he is abusive to you, which he is, hang up or get away from him. You do not deserve that. Don't allow him to treat you with anything but respect. Put boundaries around yourself and your property. He is way too old to be acting like such an ass. Don't allow it. Take deep breaths and exhale the guilt. Stick to your guns about the phone. Learn how to let go. Don't second guess yourself, you did the right thing. Take care of YOU now. Sending you warm wishes and hugs for your wounded heart.......... [/QUOTE]
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