lovemysons
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After not hearing from young difficult child for several days last week husband and I finally got a visit from him on Saturday afternoon. He was telling us that he had been in Rehab for a few days and that he had been attending AA meetings as well. What he "really" wanted was for husband and I to go pay the rent on the apt like we had agreed to "IF" he were to place himself in a Rehab or Sub Abuse Program.
Of Course, Young difficult child had no documentation on him...said it was at his mother in law's. Ya right.
He tried to get money out of husband and I and we did not give him any...He did snag a pack of cigs from me though.
Meanwhile...I was trying to get ahold of his mother in law to find out if she knew anything about young difficult child supposibly admitting himself in a Sub Abuse Program. I finally got her on the phone...she told me that his wife, M, was finally through with young difficult child and that wife was "paying him off"...giving him 30 dollars and ride anywhere he chose in order to get rid of him.
Saturday night about 10pm I got a call from young difficult child...he said he was at a gas station not far from mother in law's. He wanted me to come pick him up and take him to he and wife's Apartment. I told him I would not do that and that it sounded like he needed to work things out for himself. He also said that he "found out wife had a personal ad on Craigslist soliciting men" and that this is why they are no longer together.
Yesterday I spoke with his mother in law again. She told me that young difficult child was at her house at 3am banging and knocking and yelling for wife. She said she and my grandson were in the living room in the dark as this was going on (???)
She said young difficult child also called her house many times in the middle of the night and that he was threatening to take the grandbabies away from her as "she is not the parent" etc etc. Young difficult child has always been very posessive and has difficulty with sharing Anything!
mother in law told me that she would have called the police on young difficult child but was worrried that he might ACTUALLY be able to take the grandbabies as she has no legal authority to keep them. She also stated that wife was NOT at home at the time and that she didn't know where wife was.
I have found out some disturbing news though...
Young difficult child has court tomorrow along with wife. This is for a Domestic Abuse incident between wife and young difficult child that occured a few months ago when they were at their apt. Wife did not file charges but instead sent him to a psychiatric unit that night. He had "poked" her in the eye.
Now, I did see her the day after this incident and she did not have any marks or bruising on her face but apparently the State has picked up this incident and young difficult child and wife are scheduled to appear in Court tomorrow re this incident.
I will say that I DO believe young difficult child can be abusive...emotionally, verbally, and physically. He has Never harmed me but He did hit wife once when they lived with us last year and husband CLOCKED him!!!
After that I thought young difficult child would never touch wife again in an abusive way but apparently I was wrong.
I am reminded of the abuse my mother suffered at the hands of my bio dad ( who died last Nov). I was Not raised by bio dad did not even meet him til I was 17 but Young difficult child is the spitting image of him. Half sister (who I also met at 17) told me that she believed our dad to have had Bipolar Disorder too.
The genetic similarities and now behavior are so closely related between Young difficult child and my bio dad, it's amazing...and TRULY unfortunate.
I have not heard from young difficult child since Saturday night. No idea where he is. mother in law did tell me that she found sites for Mexico on her computer. Apparently she and wife think he may have run off.
Personally I don't think he is too far away...I made sure all of our house doors were locked last night as I really suspect we're going to find him on our doorstep sometime soon.
LMS
Of Course, Young difficult child had no documentation on him...said it was at his mother in law's. Ya right.
He tried to get money out of husband and I and we did not give him any...He did snag a pack of cigs from me though.
Meanwhile...I was trying to get ahold of his mother in law to find out if she knew anything about young difficult child supposibly admitting himself in a Sub Abuse Program. I finally got her on the phone...she told me that his wife, M, was finally through with young difficult child and that wife was "paying him off"...giving him 30 dollars and ride anywhere he chose in order to get rid of him.
Saturday night about 10pm I got a call from young difficult child...he said he was at a gas station not far from mother in law's. He wanted me to come pick him up and take him to he and wife's Apartment. I told him I would not do that and that it sounded like he needed to work things out for himself. He also said that he "found out wife had a personal ad on Craigslist soliciting men" and that this is why they are no longer together.
Yesterday I spoke with his mother in law again. She told me that young difficult child was at her house at 3am banging and knocking and yelling for wife. She said she and my grandson were in the living room in the dark as this was going on (???)
She said young difficult child also called her house many times in the middle of the night and that he was threatening to take the grandbabies away from her as "she is not the parent" etc etc. Young difficult child has always been very posessive and has difficulty with sharing Anything!
mother in law told me that she would have called the police on young difficult child but was worrried that he might ACTUALLY be able to take the grandbabies as she has no legal authority to keep them. She also stated that wife was NOT at home at the time and that she didn't know where wife was.
I have found out some disturbing news though...
Young difficult child has court tomorrow along with wife. This is for a Domestic Abuse incident between wife and young difficult child that occured a few months ago when they were at their apt. Wife did not file charges but instead sent him to a psychiatric unit that night. He had "poked" her in the eye.
Now, I did see her the day after this incident and she did not have any marks or bruising on her face but apparently the State has picked up this incident and young difficult child and wife are scheduled to appear in Court tomorrow re this incident.
I will say that I DO believe young difficult child can be abusive...emotionally, verbally, and physically. He has Never harmed me but He did hit wife once when they lived with us last year and husband CLOCKED him!!!
After that I thought young difficult child would never touch wife again in an abusive way but apparently I was wrong.
I am reminded of the abuse my mother suffered at the hands of my bio dad ( who died last Nov). I was Not raised by bio dad did not even meet him til I was 17 but Young difficult child is the spitting image of him. Half sister (who I also met at 17) told me that she believed our dad to have had Bipolar Disorder too.
The genetic similarities and now behavior are so closely related between Young difficult child and my bio dad, it's amazing...and TRULY unfortunate.
I have not heard from young difficult child since Saturday night. No idea where he is. mother in law did tell me that she found sites for Mexico on her computer. Apparently she and wife think he may have run off.
Personally I don't think he is too far away...I made sure all of our house doors were locked last night as I really suspect we're going to find him on our doorstep sometime soon.
LMS
