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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 287853" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I agree with heather. If you rescue her it will end up sending a message that she can't handle things and will fuel her to create situations that result in consequences and then seh will expect to be rescued from the consequences again.</p><p></p><p>If you can get her to tough it out, it will be better in the long run, and not just because she will get 5 years of tuition out of it. She probably doesn't realize how much money that is, it might help if you got an estimation of how much tuition costs each year. When she is calm, show her that number and make her KNOW how many hours she would have to work at a minimum wage job to earn that much.</p><p></p><p>But wait until she is calm.</p><p></p><p>right now, it does sound as if something is very wrong. It could just be the typical teen attitude (where do they GET that entitlement) that is over the top. Why does she expect respect when she doesn't give it? Maybe at home you need to mirror her behavior, act toward her the way she acts toward you, so she will maybe get the idea that if SHE behaves a certain way, people will respond that way to her. If she can get that now it will be a major help later in life.</p><p></p><p>do what you can to encourage her to stay. Make her tough out the consequences. Let her know that you expect her to deal with them, and you will NOT keep her from feeling the consequences of her actions. She is very close to being an adult. She NEEDS to learn NOW that she must face the consequences of ehr actions. Otherwise the next 10 years are going to be VERY hard on all of you.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, and stand strong. Encourage her to tough it out, tell her you KNOW she can do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 287853, member: 1233"] I agree with heather. If you rescue her it will end up sending a message that she can't handle things and will fuel her to create situations that result in consequences and then seh will expect to be rescued from the consequences again. If you can get her to tough it out, it will be better in the long run, and not just because she will get 5 years of tuition out of it. She probably doesn't realize how much money that is, it might help if you got an estimation of how much tuition costs each year. When she is calm, show her that number and make her KNOW how many hours she would have to work at a minimum wage job to earn that much. But wait until she is calm. right now, it does sound as if something is very wrong. It could just be the typical teen attitude (where do they GET that entitlement) that is over the top. Why does she expect respect when she doesn't give it? Maybe at home you need to mirror her behavior, act toward her the way she acts toward you, so she will maybe get the idea that if SHE behaves a certain way, people will respond that way to her. If she can get that now it will be a major help later in life. do what you can to encourage her to stay. Make her tough out the consequences. Let her know that you expect her to deal with them, and you will NOT keep her from feeling the consequences of her actions. She is very close to being an adult. She NEEDS to learn NOW that she must face the consequences of ehr actions. Otherwise the next 10 years are going to be VERY hard on all of you. Good luck, and stand strong. Encourage her to tough it out, tell her you KNOW she can do it. [/QUOTE]
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