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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 287879" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I just thought about something that may be going on especially in light of her absence from the program early on. She is 15 years old. If she is anything like my Diva, she was thinking that this program would give her freedoms she does not have at home. She doesn't like that there are rules and that she is actually there to accomplish something. She is finding that she can not handle her make believe freedoms from home. People are not going to let her just run as she wants and set the schedule for the day and decide which meetings she goes to or not. This is not a chance to be living a life of her dreams away from home.</p><p> </p><p>When my Diva turned 16, she just shone with the attitude of "I am 16. I can now do whatever I want whenever I want". It was not a pretty birthday as I told her that 16 does NOT give her total freedom to come and go as she wanted to. I think she would have behaved just like your easy child if she was in that situation. So assure this was her opportunity to show how grown up she was by going where she wants when she wants.</p><p> </p><p>Now that she knows she does not get these freedoms, she doesn't want to be there. If that is the case, I am with others in the vote that it is o.k. to have her spend the night and face the meeting in the morning. She needs to be encouraged to keep her posture and be calm during that meeting. </p><p> </p><p>I do hope that this is just a typical teen drama show and nothing too serious outside of that is going on. She will be o.k. tonight (I am sure staff will keep a close eye on her) and you can re-evaluation tomorrow. It's a wonder what a good night's sleep will do - I hope she sleeps well.</p><p> </p><p>I know how hard this is for you - I tend to be a rescuer myself and it is hard not to be if you are not sure what is going on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 287879, member: 5096"] I just thought about something that may be going on especially in light of her absence from the program early on. She is 15 years old. If she is anything like my Diva, she was thinking that this program would give her freedoms she does not have at home. She doesn't like that there are rules and that she is actually there to accomplish something. She is finding that she can not handle her make believe freedoms from home. People are not going to let her just run as she wants and set the schedule for the day and decide which meetings she goes to or not. This is not a chance to be living a life of her dreams away from home. When my Diva turned 16, she just shone with the attitude of "I am 16. I can now do whatever I want whenever I want". It was not a pretty birthday as I told her that 16 does NOT give her total freedom to come and go as she wanted to. I think she would have behaved just like your easy child if she was in that situation. So assure this was her opportunity to show how grown up she was by going where she wants when she wants. Now that she knows she does not get these freedoms, she doesn't want to be there. If that is the case, I am with others in the vote that it is o.k. to have her spend the night and face the meeting in the morning. She needs to be encouraged to keep her posture and be calm during that meeting. I do hope that this is just a typical teen drama show and nothing too serious outside of that is going on. She will be o.k. tonight (I am sure staff will keep a close eye on her) and you can re-evaluation tomorrow. It's a wonder what a good night's sleep will do - I hope she sleeps well. I know how hard this is for you - I tend to be a rescuer myself and it is hard not to be if you are not sure what is going on. [/QUOTE]
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