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<blockquote data-quote="Wiped Out" data-source="post: 287937" data-attributes="member: 1631"><p>Thank you everyone for the good suggestions. The counselor called after check in last night to let us know that easy child had indeed calmed down. </p><p></p><p>We went to meet with her and the director this morning. It seemed to go really well which is good because this is the person who will be the director of the program at her high school this Fall.</p><p></p><p>We were very proud of how easy child handled herself this morning. She said what she had to say and said it respectfully and seemed to be listening. She mentioned that although she felt the consequences were fair she felt how they were handed out wasn't (she felt everyone was ganging up on her). </p><p></p><p>We (husband, director, and I) all spoke with how she is getting older she needs to start taking more responsibility and even when she doesn't want to do something that is required it isn't always a choice (nothing we haven't told her before but she seemed to really be listening-we'll see). </p><p></p><p>We told her that although it may feel people are ganging up on her it's actually people are caring about her. The counselor last night told her the same thing, that if they didn't care she would already be out of the program. She seemed to accept that.</p><p></p><p>Before we left we made sure she was clear on her consequences for the rest of the week at the program. </p><p></p><p>Throughout the entire meeting we tried to focus on her accepting responsibility for things and also let her know we loved her and are proud of her but that we can't rescue her from her choices.</p><p></p><p>Before we left she gave husband and me a hug (even told me I was so huggable) and told us she loved us. So I think it went well, now we'll see if she can follow through. We know we have many conversations ahead of us. Hoping we can keep her more in the easy child than difficult child category but at this point time will tell.</p><p></p><p>Your ideas and support mean so much to me, thanks for being there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wiped Out, post: 287937, member: 1631"] Thank you everyone for the good suggestions. The counselor called after check in last night to let us know that easy child had indeed calmed down. We went to meet with her and the director this morning. It seemed to go really well which is good because this is the person who will be the director of the program at her high school this Fall. We were very proud of how easy child handled herself this morning. She said what she had to say and said it respectfully and seemed to be listening. She mentioned that although she felt the consequences were fair she felt how they were handed out wasn't (she felt everyone was ganging up on her). We (husband, director, and I) all spoke with how she is getting older she needs to start taking more responsibility and even when she doesn't want to do something that is required it isn't always a choice (nothing we haven't told her before but she seemed to really be listening-we'll see). We told her that although it may feel people are ganging up on her it's actually people are caring about her. The counselor last night told her the same thing, that if they didn't care she would already be out of the program. She seemed to accept that. Before we left we made sure she was clear on her consequences for the rest of the week at the program. Throughout the entire meeting we tried to focus on her accepting responsibility for things and also let her know we loved her and are proud of her but that we can't rescue her from her choices. Before we left she gave husband and me a hug (even told me I was so huggable) and told us she loved us. So I think it went well, now we'll see if she can follow through. We know we have many conversations ahead of us. Hoping we can keep her more in the easy child than difficult child category but at this point time will tell. Your ideas and support mean so much to me, thanks for being there! [/QUOTE]
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