WhiteDeer5
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My 16 years old son, Clyde have been living here since the summer after he got in so much trouble to the point where his father sent him to live with us. Clyde has been living with his father since was 6 years old and his father is an engineer and they have lived and traveled all over the world.
As hard as it was, it was probably the best thing for Clyde. He was getting a really good education from a wonderful private tutor, was learning so much about the world, seeing so many places, get to do numerous things that so many can only dream of, and his father is a great father to him.
But last two years, Clyde was starting to get in trouble. It start with typical teenager things like sneaking out or do something he was told to not. It end up snowballed into big things such as swimming in a beach that was known to be heavily infested with sharks after being told repeatedly to not swim there, leaving home when his father is gone for few days, and other things. The last straw was when he sneak out to go to Sudan to see some pyramid and wound up stuck about 400 miles from home while his father was out of the city. When he finally got home, his father found a fake passport and an document that claim hes a journalist, fairly large amount of cash, and a handgun hidden in the camera bag.
Because things was getting really bad, everybody decided that Clyde should come and live with my family and me instead of moving all over with little supervisor from his father.
Clyde moved here last summer and we quickly learned that hes way more than handful. He never asks for permission to go anywhere. Hed just pick up and leave without even asking and he doesnt respect curfew either. Hes also really good at sneaking out to point where other two kids stop even trying because they were getting caught all of the time because we were trying to stop Clyde from doing it! This caused so much stresses on me and my husband that sometime we cannot even sleep at all because wed be wondering if Clyde is gone or not and checking on him.
Speaking if sleeping, Clyde seems to barely sleep at all. He always seems so burned out and tired, but hed still be doing all kind of things from working out to fiddling with machine to drawing to reading. So it is like as if we can never ever really get in any sleep because of this.
Other thing is, almost as soon as Clyde got here, he start to seek out foreigners and offer translating service or trip guidance. He even got business cards that pose him as a French and Arabic translator (his father is from Montreal, so he speak fluent French and studied Arabic in college and they both have lived in many places that speak mainly French or Arabic) This lead him to leave the house at any time without telling anybody and often would come home really late.
We have tried to take his cell phone away, but he always end up getting other one and somehow make it work! Its so frustrating! I almost feel like as if I have to pats him down every time I see him!
As for academy, he placed incredibly high in test and everything so he was placed in honor classes. But he wind up getting took out of the honor classes because only time hed do homework is just to get a D as final grade. He have no problem passing test or anything, he just simply doesnt want to do homework and made it openly known.
This led him to being kicked off the water polo team and barred him from joining the wrestling team. We recently found out that after he got kicked off the water polo team, he ended up playing for water polo club!
Many people, including us have tried to talk to him about his future. We keep try to tell him that he have so much talent and potential and shouldnt be wasting them and that he could do anything he want. His reply was always I lived all over the world and I manage to get out and make my own money and travel without anybody help. I plan on continuing that as soon as I turn 18 as thats what I love doing the most If we try to tell him he can go to college and get a great job that allows him to travel, hed be like If thats what you want, go do it yourself then!
This makes me so mad!
Im just starting to feel like theres absolutely nothing we can do any more. It is so heartbreaking and frustrating to watch him doing this to himself and knowing that everything we tried have failed. I dont even know what to do any more.
As hard as it was, it was probably the best thing for Clyde. He was getting a really good education from a wonderful private tutor, was learning so much about the world, seeing so many places, get to do numerous things that so many can only dream of, and his father is a great father to him.
But last two years, Clyde was starting to get in trouble. It start with typical teenager things like sneaking out or do something he was told to not. It end up snowballed into big things such as swimming in a beach that was known to be heavily infested with sharks after being told repeatedly to not swim there, leaving home when his father is gone for few days, and other things. The last straw was when he sneak out to go to Sudan to see some pyramid and wound up stuck about 400 miles from home while his father was out of the city. When he finally got home, his father found a fake passport and an document that claim hes a journalist, fairly large amount of cash, and a handgun hidden in the camera bag.
Because things was getting really bad, everybody decided that Clyde should come and live with my family and me instead of moving all over with little supervisor from his father.
Clyde moved here last summer and we quickly learned that hes way more than handful. He never asks for permission to go anywhere. Hed just pick up and leave without even asking and he doesnt respect curfew either. Hes also really good at sneaking out to point where other two kids stop even trying because they were getting caught all of the time because we were trying to stop Clyde from doing it! This caused so much stresses on me and my husband that sometime we cannot even sleep at all because wed be wondering if Clyde is gone or not and checking on him.
Speaking if sleeping, Clyde seems to barely sleep at all. He always seems so burned out and tired, but hed still be doing all kind of things from working out to fiddling with machine to drawing to reading. So it is like as if we can never ever really get in any sleep because of this.
Other thing is, almost as soon as Clyde got here, he start to seek out foreigners and offer translating service or trip guidance. He even got business cards that pose him as a French and Arabic translator (his father is from Montreal, so he speak fluent French and studied Arabic in college and they both have lived in many places that speak mainly French or Arabic) This lead him to leave the house at any time without telling anybody and often would come home really late.
We have tried to take his cell phone away, but he always end up getting other one and somehow make it work! Its so frustrating! I almost feel like as if I have to pats him down every time I see him!
As for academy, he placed incredibly high in test and everything so he was placed in honor classes. But he wind up getting took out of the honor classes because only time hed do homework is just to get a D as final grade. He have no problem passing test or anything, he just simply doesnt want to do homework and made it openly known.
This led him to being kicked off the water polo team and barred him from joining the wrestling team. We recently found out that after he got kicked off the water polo team, he ended up playing for water polo club!
Many people, including us have tried to talk to him about his future. We keep try to tell him that he have so much talent and potential and shouldnt be wasting them and that he could do anything he want. His reply was always I lived all over the world and I manage to get out and make my own money and travel without anybody help. I plan on continuing that as soon as I turn 18 as thats what I love doing the most If we try to tell him he can go to college and get a great job that allows him to travel, hed be like If thats what you want, go do it yourself then!
This makes me so mad!
Im just starting to feel like theres absolutely nothing we can do any more. It is so heartbreaking and frustrating to watch him doing this to himself and knowing that everything we tried have failed. I dont even know what to do any more.