Hello I'm new here. I guess I just need a place to vent. I have a 15yo "difficult child" who is diagnosed ADHD/ODD and Learning Disability (LD). I believe she is bi-polar but can't convince her psychiatrist of that. If he spent a day with her instead of 20 minutes every couple of months while she's putting on her "pretty face" he'd see. Anyway, earlier this week I discovered she's stolen some of my credit cards and so far the charges I've been able to find or gotten bills for come to close to $300. When I confronted her the situation devolved into violence and ended up with me calling 911 and her being taken to juvenile assessment. She stayed there 4 hours, I had to go get her at midnight! The next day she was at a friend's house and posted a big braggy post on her myspace about how cool she is and how easy she got off. I changed her email and myspace password which enraged her of course and who am I kidding she'll just go back to the friend's house and open a new email and myspace. She called me at work Weds and left a chilling voicemail telling me she was going to do "181 evil things" ($181 is the amount she charged on my Discover card) like calling my work and telling "them" I drink on the job. When I got home, I discovered she'd jammed the lock on my bedroom door (which I have to keep locked to keep her out of my things) and cut a slit in one of the sofa cushions in the living room (a 2 year old microsuede couch--pretty much non repairable). I'm sure she did other things I just haven't discovered yet. She also made sure I saw where she's been cutting herself (all over one knee). YESTERDAY she called me at work sweet as pie to tell me she'd cleaned the kitchen and dining room and could she have her cellphone back (She had that taken away quite a while ago). I agreed to talk to her about it when I got home. She had done a great job, and was polite, friendly and genuinely appreciative when I gave her the phone but told her she'd lose it again if she started up again. That lasted a couple of hours. Around midnight i overheard her talking to a friend about various horrible things they'd done and were planning to do--steal from friends etc. I demanded the phone back. She became abusive so I just called ATT and suspended her line. I am terrified that when she figures out what happened she is going to tear my house apart. This may not be the correct forum, but I'm at my wits end. We've been in various sorts of counseling since she was 3 or 4. She's seen neurologists, psychiatrists, counselors, social workers you name it. Now she is required go to court next week (which I have to take time off work for) and go to yet another counselor (which I have to take time off work for) and I am sure she'll be put on some sort of "diversion program" which will be more work for me than for her (we've been through this with truancy) and NOTHING has any affect on her. I'll have to spend more time, energy and emotions "explaining" things and *I* am the VICTIM here! Ok i better stop now. thanks for 'listening'.