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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 171151" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>G'day, Freckles, welcome to a haven online. </p><p></p><p>As you will see from my sig, I have a special connection with kids with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), ADHD and autism. I also know how easily it can be missed. These kids can be very different from each other. However, if you are sure your son hasn't got a form of autism in the mix as well, then at least you have given it serious consideration. </p><p></p><p>That said, even if he hasn't got it, I think it's a good thing he is in a class with high-functioning autistic kids, because they WILL share the anxiety/ADD combination presentation and when you're supporting one kid like this, it's easier to support the next one as well. </p><p></p><p>Your son's self-esteem issues could well come from his self-belief that he is bad, that he is stupid, that he can't get anything right. They get frustrated with themselves and everyone else. Sometimes tat is turned outwards and we see it as explosive behaviour; sometimes it becomes self-destructive. It will be ongoing, until he is older and has developed some coping skills, or you have found a medication regime that works - or both.</p><p></p><p>And even when he is older and seemingly capable, back in easy child mode - he will always have a shorter fuse, there will always be times when he finds everything too much. The depression won't go away, it will surface again if he gets overloaded.</p><p></p><p>So he needs to learn coping skills, as well as to be given an understanding of why he is like he is. It's not his fault. Some kids just are made differently, their brains work differently. He needs to work out how to make his brain do what it needs to do, and to really take on board that he is NOT bad, he is a decent human being who is also a distinctive individual. He CAN do it, he just has to find out what is the right way in HIS case.</p><p></p><p>Support him, boost his self-esteem and keep helping him deal with his fears and his depression. Do what you can for him NOW - testosterone is just around the corner and it is going to upset your applecart all over again, in a few years' time.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 171151, member: 1991"] G'day, Freckles, welcome to a haven online. As you will see from my sig, I have a special connection with kids with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), ADHD and autism. I also know how easily it can be missed. These kids can be very different from each other. However, if you are sure your son hasn't got a form of autism in the mix as well, then at least you have given it serious consideration. That said, even if he hasn't got it, I think it's a good thing he is in a class with high-functioning autistic kids, because they WILL share the anxiety/ADD combination presentation and when you're supporting one kid like this, it's easier to support the next one as well. Your son's self-esteem issues could well come from his self-belief that he is bad, that he is stupid, that he can't get anything right. They get frustrated with themselves and everyone else. Sometimes tat is turned outwards and we see it as explosive behaviour; sometimes it becomes self-destructive. It will be ongoing, until he is older and has developed some coping skills, or you have found a medication regime that works - or both. And even when he is older and seemingly capable, back in easy child mode - he will always have a shorter fuse, there will always be times when he finds everything too much. The depression won't go away, it will surface again if he gets overloaded. So he needs to learn coping skills, as well as to be given an understanding of why he is like he is. It's not his fault. Some kids just are made differently, their brains work differently. He needs to work out how to make his brain do what it needs to do, and to really take on board that he is NOT bad, he is a decent human being who is also a distinctive individual. He CAN do it, he just has to find out what is the right way in HIS case. Support him, boost his self-esteem and keep helping him deal with his fears and his depression. Do what you can for him NOW - testosterone is just around the corner and it is going to upset your applecart all over again, in a few years' time. Marg [/QUOTE]
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