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Dormant Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Reactive Attachment Disorder... encouragement welcome!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 318650" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>About 7 months after adoption at age 6, our 21 daughter-difficult child was diagnosed in 1995 as having Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). There was little-to-no information readily available for parents aside from what the state provided adoption counselor said (which was tremendously helpful considering!!!!)</p><p></p><p>First three years with daughter-difficult child after adoption were hell on wheels!!! </p><p></p><p>We learned the kind of parenting she required and she truly flourished to the point we truly thought she had "outgrown" the condition. </p><p></p><p>We recognize (only in hindsight) that the last 2 years of rebellion since returning from one semester at an out-of-state college were actually symptoms that her Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) was rearing its ugly head. It appears the age-appropriate act of detaching from her loving family has stirred up stuff.</p><p></p><p>Since August, daughter-difficult child has been using the court system to make false claims of abuse against her father and me. </p><p></p><p>Our "Christian friends" are believing daughter-difficult child's outlandish lies and have broken relationship with us. ( <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /> guess they were never really friends to begin with!!!)</p><p></p><p>daughter-difficult child had been "triangulating" her younger bio half-brother since she returned from college, our DS-difficult child age 18. He's clueless but steadfastly on her side. </p><p></p><p>We're heartbroken, but grateful that every "professional" (judge, attorney, psychologist, social worker, counselor, police officer etc) we have encountered recognizes that we have been wonderful parents to the kids adopted out of the foster system. The kids had been bouncing around in "the system" for the years before they were placed into our loving home. </p><p></p><p>Any encouragement from people who are on the victory side of this painful journey and can offer advice would be greatly appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 318650, member: 8405"] About 7 months after adoption at age 6, our 21 daughter-difficult child was diagnosed in 1995 as having Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). There was little-to-no information readily available for parents aside from what the state provided adoption counselor said (which was tremendously helpful considering!!!!) First three years with daughter-difficult child after adoption were hell on wheels!!! We learned the kind of parenting she required and she truly flourished to the point we truly thought she had "outgrown" the condition. We recognize (only in hindsight) that the last 2 years of rebellion since returning from one semester at an out-of-state college were actually symptoms that her Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) was rearing its ugly head. It appears the age-appropriate act of detaching from her loving family has stirred up stuff. Since August, daughter-difficult child has been using the court system to make false claims of abuse against her father and me. Our "Christian friends" are believing daughter-difficult child's outlandish lies and have broken relationship with us. ( :sad-very: guess they were never really friends to begin with!!!) daughter-difficult child had been "triangulating" her younger bio half-brother since she returned from college, our DS-difficult child age 18. He's clueless but steadfastly on her side. We're heartbroken, but grateful that every "professional" (judge, attorney, psychologist, social worker, counselor, police officer etc) we have encountered recognizes that we have been wonderful parents to the kids adopted out of the foster system. The kids had been bouncing around in "the system" for the years before they were placed into our loving home. Any encouragement from people who are on the victory side of this painful journey and can offer advice would be greatly appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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