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<blockquote data-quote="secretly sad" data-source="post: 141971" data-attributes="member: 4896"><p>Rationally you know that you cannot control him. No one can control another person's behavior but we can cause him to see the light sooner than later by not helping him. He will drink until He decides to stop and that ride he is going on until that point is too painful for you and your family to go through or watch him go through. Going through the downhill slide with him will hurt you and your family. I would carry on with your family life normally as possible and when he comes home or is around protect yourselves by not leaving money or purses out of sight, because that is what addicts do, they steal. Since he has to live at home on breaks, I would not have alcohol at home unless you are drinking out of the bottle and watching the bottle and not letting him join you, I would not give him any money and tell him he is not allowed to drink in your home or he will have to find other places to live. Then he will continue his downhill slide, but outside of your home, so you will not be as close to it or see it. Also I would not let him drive. As hard as it is , I would tell him that either his friends have to drive him places or you will drop him off. If he asks why, I would either say that I believe he is alcoholic, which will make him mad, or it is my house and I do not have to explain my rules to you, which probably will get him mad too. They main idea is to keep life as normal as possible and as happy as possible for you and your family, by detaching from his behavior and protect yourself from him so you do not have to think about it every day that he is home. You know that what he is doing away from home is drinking and not a happy scene - but unless life gets really painful for him, he is not going to stop. Let go and let God. Entrust his life now to a higher power and pray for him and that he does not die - better he fall now that hang on causing agony to others for years , especially if he gets married and has children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="secretly sad, post: 141971, member: 4896"] Rationally you know that you cannot control him. No one can control another person's behavior but we can cause him to see the light sooner than later by not helping him. He will drink until He decides to stop and that ride he is going on until that point is too painful for you and your family to go through or watch him go through. Going through the downhill slide with him will hurt you and your family. I would carry on with your family life normally as possible and when he comes home or is around protect yourselves by not leaving money or purses out of sight, because that is what addicts do, they steal. Since he has to live at home on breaks, I would not have alcohol at home unless you are drinking out of the bottle and watching the bottle and not letting him join you, I would not give him any money and tell him he is not allowed to drink in your home or he will have to find other places to live. Then he will continue his downhill slide, but outside of your home, so you will not be as close to it or see it. Also I would not let him drive. As hard as it is , I would tell him that either his friends have to drive him places or you will drop him off. If he asks why, I would either say that I believe he is alcoholic, which will make him mad, or it is my house and I do not have to explain my rules to you, which probably will get him mad too. They main idea is to keep life as normal as possible and as happy as possible for you and your family, by detaching from his behavior and protect yourself from him so you do not have to think about it every day that he is home. You know that what he is doing away from home is drinking and not a happy scene - but unless life gets really painful for him, he is not going to stop. Let go and let God. Entrust his life now to a higher power and pray for him and that he does not die - better he fall now that hang on causing agony to others for years , especially if he gets married and has children. [/QUOTE]
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