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<blockquote data-quote="Dr. Douglas Riley" data-source="post: 254131" data-attributes="member: 6888"><p>Samsdad, regarding the spitting: I think that you are especially smart to remove milk products for a few days, and then reintroduce them to see if it provokes negative behavior. Let's say, however, that the spitting turns out not to be food driven after you have gone through the elimination diet, but is simply overly aggressive behavior when angered. You might want to use a technique that I have used on a number of occasions with the little spitters that I work with. I ask parents to label the spitting behavior "little guy behavior," and to tell their child that they want to see him acting the way that big guys act. Go to some length to explain that big guys do not spit. Then, be sure to catch him being good: find a stretch in which he has yet to spit, and praise him heavily for being in the big guy zone and not spitting. Have his day care providers use this feedback model heavily, and have them praise him and give his rounds of applause for staying in the big guy zone. Some children place a great value on being described as big, and hopefully this will work.</p><p> </p><p>If a positive reinforcement technique like this does not work, I then ask the parents to keep a very juicy set of wet wipes handy and explain to the child that every time they spit, it gets all sorts of "germies" all over their face. Then, the next time they spit, wipe their face really well, being sure to leave it dripping. Tell them that you will do this every time they spit because you do not want them to get "germies" all over their face. Be prepared for an explosion the first time or two that you do this. However, it is amazing how quickly it will knock out the spitting for most kids because it removes the reinforcement that they otherwise get from their aggressive behavior. </p><p> </p><p>Remember - try to find the underlying cause first (possibly food sensitivities in this case). If it turns out, however, that there is no known underlying cause, and a child does not respond to positive feedback, it is OK to move forward with a mild aversive response in order to wipe out a negative behavior. Once the frequency of spitting decreases, it is absolutely imperative that you continue to give him lots of verbal praise for being in the big guy zone and acting the way the big guys act. </p><p> </p><p>Doug Riley</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dr. Douglas Riley, post: 254131, member: 6888"] Samsdad, regarding the spitting: I think that you are especially smart to remove milk products for a few days, and then reintroduce them to see if it provokes negative behavior. Let's say, however, that the spitting turns out not to be food driven after you have gone through the elimination diet, but is simply overly aggressive behavior when angered. You might want to use a technique that I have used on a number of occasions with the little spitters that I work with. I ask parents to label the spitting behavior "little guy behavior," and to tell their child that they want to see him acting the way that big guys act. Go to some length to explain that big guys do not spit. Then, be sure to catch him being good: find a stretch in which he has yet to spit, and praise him heavily for being in the big guy zone and not spitting. Have his day care providers use this feedback model heavily, and have them praise him and give his rounds of applause for staying in the big guy zone. Some children place a great value on being described as big, and hopefully this will work. If a positive reinforcement technique like this does not work, I then ask the parents to keep a very juicy set of wet wipes handy and explain to the child that every time they spit, it gets all sorts of "germies" all over their face. Then, the next time they spit, wipe their face really well, being sure to leave it dripping. Tell them that you will do this every time they spit because you do not want them to get "germies" all over their face. Be prepared for an explosion the first time or two that you do this. However, it is amazing how quickly it will knock out the spitting for most kids because it removes the reinforcement that they otherwise get from their aggressive behavior. Remember - try to find the underlying cause first (possibly food sensitivities in this case). If it turns out, however, that there is no known underlying cause, and a child does not respond to positive feedback, it is OK to move forward with a mild aversive response in order to wipe out a negative behavior. Once the frequency of spitting decreases, it is absolutely imperative that you continue to give him lots of verbal praise for being in the big guy zone and acting the way the big guys act. Doug Riley [/QUOTE]
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