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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 725452" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>So ready to live gave you great advice, although sad. My daughter who quit told me the same thing. "Drug addicts lie. That's what they do." Although your son may have been behind on the phone bill, what he probably wanted was cash for drugs. I always believed it when my daughter stared at me with her beautiful,soft eyes and told me she no longer used drugs. Was I a fool much?</p><p></p><p> After she truly quit, she admitted that she said that just to see if she could get use of the car back or money for drugs. Since we believed her, although she never did get car privledge back (she had wrecked our van and never even tried to help with damages) we did feel safe giving her money. Which she used for drugs and soon we always found out she had been lying.</p><p></p><p>A good rule of thumb is no cash or anything they can sell for cash. He is bored? Get a job. Jeeez. More likely he wants to buy drugs.</p><p></p><p>Your offer was generous. Don't back down. For his sake. He doesn't need your easy help to buy drugs. It should be HARD for him to get money for drugs. Hard enough so that he will hopefully be motivated to quit.</p><p></p><p>Is he acting very different, like he quit? Is he living a mature and sane life with a job? Is he nice to you? People change A LOT once they quit. You can't miss it. You don't have to wonder if they turned it around.</p><p></p><p>Don't let Son ruin your Christmas or life. Put him back on block, if necessary. He is probably going to make the most of Christmas and try to collect as much as he can from the entire family. </p><p></p><p>You deserve a peaceful holiday.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 725452, member: 1550"] So ready to live gave you great advice, although sad. My daughter who quit told me the same thing. "Drug addicts lie. That's what they do." Although your son may have been behind on the phone bill, what he probably wanted was cash for drugs. I always believed it when my daughter stared at me with her beautiful,soft eyes and told me she no longer used drugs. Was I a fool much? After she truly quit, she admitted that she said that just to see if she could get use of the car back or money for drugs. Since we believed her, although she never did get car privledge back (she had wrecked our van and never even tried to help with damages) we did feel safe giving her money. Which she used for drugs and soon we always found out she had been lying. A good rule of thumb is no cash or anything they can sell for cash. He is bored? Get a job. Jeeez. More likely he wants to buy drugs. Your offer was generous. Don't back down. For his sake. He doesn't need your easy help to buy drugs. It should be HARD for him to get money for drugs. Hard enough so that he will hopefully be motivated to quit. Is he acting very different, like he quit? Is he living a mature and sane life with a job? Is he nice to you? People change A LOT once they quit. You can't miss it. You don't have to wonder if they turned it around. Don't let Son ruin your Christmas or life. Put him back on block, if necessary. He is probably going to make the most of Christmas and try to collect as much as he can from the entire family. You deserve a peaceful holiday. [/QUOTE]
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