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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 398808"><p>They just keep ticking me off! The first thing said when I got into the room (eveyone else was already there) was "I am really questioning if we are able to meet difficult child's needs at this school. Have you given any more thought to having him attend a therapeutic school?" My answer was no because there are still things they can do at this school that they aren't willing to do. The teachers don't like it that difficult child refuses to do seat work in class but does it at home instead. I clarified that the only thing I do differently is work 1:1 with him and explain things in different ways until he understands what he is supposed to do. The said the teachers can't do that with 25 other kids in the room. Um, duh, why do you think I keep suggesting a 1:1 para for him?? The SpEd teacher admitted he had sent me a text at the end of that day saying that things ended on a bad note but never followed through because he, and everyone else, just wanted to get out of there and start their Christmas vacation. The principal got the info at the end of that day but was in a hurry to get home to pack for his Christmas trip to Sweden. He did agree that a suspension issued after 2 weeks would not be appropriate. In lieu of that, difficult child has to write letters of apology to 2 teachers or the principal will suspend him. difficult child vehemently denies anything happening with one of the teachers. He is refusing to write a letter of apology for something he seriously doesn't remember ever doing. He doesn't seem to understand that if he doesn't, he will be suspended. I am even more convinced that difficult child is on the spectrum with this line of thinking. He is willing to deal with a suspension rather than write an apology for something he has totally forgotten he did 2 weeks ago. The school is using his UNOFFICIAL diagnosis of ODD for all difficult child's behaviors and refusing to even consider that something else is going on, like Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), unless/until they have it in writing from a psychiatrist. The interesting part of that is that the ODD diagnosis was never given by a psychiatrist. difficult child has currently been suspended 4 times. They are very aware of the 10 day limit. His IEP states that before a suspension can be issued, a meeting needs to be held with the SpEd teacher, principal, and me to determine appropriate action. The problem is that the principal has already made up his mind before I get there and the SpEd teacher won't go against him so the meeting is moot. The therapist was not much help today in that she also thinks he may be better served in a therapeutic school. With the bond my difficult child has with his twin, that would be a disastrous move so it will be my LAST resort.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you for letting me vent. I am so sorry this is so long. I just can't seem to get anyone here to even consider there might be something else going on than Willful Disobedience that needs a "heavier hand".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 398808"] They just keep ticking me off! The first thing said when I got into the room (eveyone else was already there) was "I am really questioning if we are able to meet difficult child's needs at this school. Have you given any more thought to having him attend a therapeutic school?" My answer was no because there are still things they can do at this school that they aren't willing to do. The teachers don't like it that difficult child refuses to do seat work in class but does it at home instead. I clarified that the only thing I do differently is work 1:1 with him and explain things in different ways until he understands what he is supposed to do. The said the teachers can't do that with 25 other kids in the room. Um, duh, why do you think I keep suggesting a 1:1 para for him?? The SpEd teacher admitted he had sent me a text at the end of that day saying that things ended on a bad note but never followed through because he, and everyone else, just wanted to get out of there and start their Christmas vacation. The principal got the info at the end of that day but was in a hurry to get home to pack for his Christmas trip to Sweden. He did agree that a suspension issued after 2 weeks would not be appropriate. In lieu of that, difficult child has to write letters of apology to 2 teachers or the principal will suspend him. difficult child vehemently denies anything happening with one of the teachers. He is refusing to write a letter of apology for something he seriously doesn't remember ever doing. He doesn't seem to understand that if he doesn't, he will be suspended. I am even more convinced that difficult child is on the spectrum with this line of thinking. He is willing to deal with a suspension rather than write an apology for something he has totally forgotten he did 2 weeks ago. The school is using his UNOFFICIAL diagnosis of ODD for all difficult child's behaviors and refusing to even consider that something else is going on, like Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), unless/until they have it in writing from a psychiatrist. The interesting part of that is that the ODD diagnosis was never given by a psychiatrist. difficult child has currently been suspended 4 times. They are very aware of the 10 day limit. His IEP states that before a suspension can be issued, a meeting needs to be held with the SpEd teacher, principal, and me to determine appropriate action. The problem is that the principal has already made up his mind before I get there and the SpEd teacher won't go against him so the meeting is moot. The therapist was not much help today in that she also thinks he may be better served in a therapeutic school. With the bond my difficult child has with his twin, that would be a disastrous move so it will be my LAST resort. Thank you for letting me vent. I am so sorry this is so long. I just can't seem to get anyone here to even consider there might be something else going on than Willful Disobedience that needs a "heavier hand". [/QUOTE]
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