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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar II" data-source="post: 109122" data-attributes="member: 4391"><p>Stands, I hear that you feel you should be there for your son on Christmas Day. This is going to have to be one of those decisions you make based on which you will regret more as the years pass.</p><p></p><p>Whatever choice you make, there will be consequences.</p><p></p><p>If you see your son in jail on Christmas Day...you know already what the outcome will be.</p><p></p><p>You will suffer. </p><p></p><p>Your family will suffer.</p><p></p><p>Your son?</p><p></p><p>He's in for the duration.</p><p></p><p>He will feel cherished and missed and loved.</p><p></p><p>But it it will have cost the rest of his family the one time of year set aside for families to come together and heal.</p><p></p><p>It has already cost your family much of their Christmas.</p><p></p><p>It's like Fran posted in another response: the mother is the spindle around which the family comes together.</p><p></p><p>So the real question isn't about seeing your son in jail.</p><p></p><p>The real question is whether you will claim the right to sacrifice Christmas to do it.</p><p></p><p>You are the mother.</p><p></p><p>You are the spindle your family comes together around.</p><p></p><p>Though there will be one missing at your Christmas celebration this year, you know where he is and you know he is safe.</p><p></p><p>That is more than so many of us know, Stands.</p><p></p><p>I think your responsibility is to function as the mother in your family. You have a daughter recently married, and I believe you have another child at home as well?</p><p></p><p>And I know you have a husband.</p><p></p><p>Celebrate Christmas with them, Stands.</p><p></p><p>Life is so short, and they need you, too.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar II, post: 109122, member: 4391"] Stands, I hear that you feel you should be there for your son on Christmas Day. This is going to have to be one of those decisions you make based on which you will regret more as the years pass. Whatever choice you make, there will be consequences. If you see your son in jail on Christmas Day...you know already what the outcome will be. You will suffer. Your family will suffer. Your son? He's in for the duration. He will feel cherished and missed and loved. But it it will have cost the rest of his family the one time of year set aside for families to come together and heal. It has already cost your family much of their Christmas. It's like Fran posted in another response: the mother is the spindle around which the family comes together. So the real question isn't about seeing your son in jail. The real question is whether you will claim the right to sacrifice Christmas to do it. You are the mother. You are the spindle your family comes together around. Though there will be one missing at your Christmas celebration this year, you know where he is and you know he is safe. That is more than so many of us know, Stands. I think your responsibility is to function as the mother in your family. You have a daughter recently married, and I believe you have another child at home as well? And I know you have a husband. Celebrate Christmas with them, Stands. Life is so short, and they need you, too. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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