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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 523286" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, I know what you mean, Ktllc. On the other hand, as far as J is concerned, he is never really unobtrusively "normal" - in all his interactions, it is obvious that he is more lively, spirited, full of "peps" than the average youngster... That's fine, but I think the damage is in terms of his self-esteem because he is so constantly made to feel like he is "naughty". I am as guilty as anyone, and obviously my impact on him is really influential, because I do frequently get annoyed with him when he doesn't listen, or is crazily stubborn, or starts whining endlessly for something (to me) unreasonable... a scenario that is probably familiar to many of you. Just this evening he started sobbing that everyone calls him naughty all the time and he really does see himself this way, despite my frequent attempts to tell him he is not naughty but lovely (which he is)... and then I get cross with him again. He really is very sensitive and all of this rejection is having its effect somewhere. Because the reasons for his "naughtiness" are invisible, and I think that's what the dream was about. Because we are all so wired to want social not anti-social behaviour, we react with annoyance and not understanding when a child does not fit into that mould. It's very hard for all concerned...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 523286, member: 11227"] Yes, I know what you mean, Ktllc. On the other hand, as far as J is concerned, he is never really unobtrusively "normal" - in all his interactions, it is obvious that he is more lively, spirited, full of "peps" than the average youngster... That's fine, but I think the damage is in terms of his self-esteem because he is so constantly made to feel like he is "naughty". I am as guilty as anyone, and obviously my impact on him is really influential, because I do frequently get annoyed with him when he doesn't listen, or is crazily stubborn, or starts whining endlessly for something (to me) unreasonable... a scenario that is probably familiar to many of you. Just this evening he started sobbing that everyone calls him naughty all the time and he really does see himself this way, despite my frequent attempts to tell him he is not naughty but lovely (which he is)... and then I get cross with him again. He really is very sensitive and all of this rejection is having its effect somewhere. Because the reasons for his "naughtiness" are invisible, and I think that's what the dream was about. Because we are all so wired to want social not anti-social behaviour, we react with annoyance and not understanding when a child does not fit into that mould. It's very hard for all concerned... [/QUOTE]
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