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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 523297" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Malika, after lots of analizing and observation, are you able to explain his behavior as it happens? Like right on the spot: J is doing x (which you find annoying) because of y (his lacking skill)? Simply saying "because he has issues" is not satisfying for me. But if V is persisting with the same question, now I ususally know he has not processed my answers (despite maybe answering 10 times already). I am slowly learning to pause, get his focus and answer slower, with different words and make him repeat. Now that I am able to analyze and adjust, it is easier to not be annoyed by V. </p><p>Obviously my example does not apply to J since his issues are different. </p><p>Is it still annoying: yes for sure, but at least I stay calm towards V.</p><p>As far as selfesteem being dammage: I understand and see it in V so much. It has gotten better since pulling him out of preschool though. A temporary fix, if you ask me... Rebuilding true self esteem despite the obstacle life will throw at him? I don't know...</p><p>I so wish you had access to better services... it would give you a better understanding of the underlying issues. Or does adhd really fit him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 523297, member: 11847"] Malika, after lots of analizing and observation, are you able to explain his behavior as it happens? Like right on the spot: J is doing x (which you find annoying) because of y (his lacking skill)? Simply saying "because he has issues" is not satisfying for me. But if V is persisting with the same question, now I ususally know he has not processed my answers (despite maybe answering 10 times already). I am slowly learning to pause, get his focus and answer slower, with different words and make him repeat. Now that I am able to analyze and adjust, it is easier to not be annoyed by V. Obviously my example does not apply to J since his issues are different. Is it still annoying: yes for sure, but at least I stay calm towards V. As far as selfesteem being dammage: I understand and see it in V so much. It has gotten better since pulling him out of preschool though. A temporary fix, if you ask me... Rebuilding true self esteem despite the obstacle life will throw at him? I don't know... I so wish you had access to better services... it would give you a better understanding of the underlying issues. Or does adhd really fit him? [/QUOTE]
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