This has been an on going touchy subject since T turned 16. I couldn't begin to count the number of heated arguements on this subject. T just can't or won't accept that he doesn't have the physical capability to drive. Not only is he legally blind, his perifrial (can't spell tonite) vision is nearly gone too. The is the kid who can't judge when it's safe to cross a street. Who can't ride his bike without distroying it from constant wrecking and running into things. It's not like we haven't tried our darndest to make it happen for him. But the loss of the perifrial vision was the cincher. We've consulted specialist, we've consulted the agentcies that offer services to the visually impaired. No go. No way he can pass the vision part of the test. And none of their equipment will accomodate for him. Tonight I reminded T of that. He says," All you ever tell me is what I can't do." Excuse me? The boy has to be autistic to be able to say that to me with a straight face and mean it. I've done nothing his whole life but tell him he can do anything if he really wants to. Just this one thing didn't work out that way. And he should know by now that if I could, I would do anything to change it so he could drive. I'm not mad at him. Just feel crummy for him. But tonite I refused to open those old wounds again. I told him if he wants to try, there was no one to stop him. I just didn't want him to get thru part way, get his hopes up like always, only to have them shot down again. But if he wants to pay for the permit, and can manage to find someone who will teach him........ NOT my car. (it's my lifeline I waited 20 yrs to get) Maybe he can convince sister in law to teach him. Although I doubt anyone who has seen him ride a bike would consider it. But I think the vision test and written test comes before they let you actually have the driving permit. I hope so as it costs 40.00. So he may never even make it behind the wheel. Oh, well. I guess he got the *I have to learn it the hard way* gene just like his sisters. *sigh* He's just going to be a mess again when it doesn't happen.