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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 411884" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>As you know easy child/difficult child did out patient plus three inpatient programs. What did he learn that has helped a bit (he is an active alcoholic and probably still smokes pot on occasion but not on a regular basis)? </p><p> </p><p>He did learn about the actual dangers of heavy drugs. He had used a number of them and popped pills frequently. The degree of addiction, the long term side effects etc. combined with hearing personal experiences from heavy users impacted his choices for the future.</p><p> </p><p>The most important factor was the therapists. At different times and places he had some very arrogant therapists who put him on the defensive pronto. The personality match was not right. Just like in normal life some people "click" and others don't. In total he had three therapists who had a positive influence. The first woman at the outpatient program remains the most respected. She focused on him...not just "the addict". She gave him assignments that appeared to be a little bit silly to encourage him to explore his choices. For example, she had a chart (I still have it and easy child/difficult child recently saw it for the first time in many years) that showed faces displaying different emotions. There was a two sided laminated sheet with smileys, fearful, anger etc. that they used to identify how he was feeling about choices he made, people he was hanging out with etc. The talked about what qualities he admired in others and in himself. She kept her records secret if he shared experiences that might put him in jeopardy...and discussed the tools to avoid repeat poor choices.I've often wondered if programs couldn't try a match up and then meet with the addict with-o that therapist present to find</p><p>the best combo.</p><p> </p><p>The other two therqpists were men who were fairly young and recovering addicts. They both were non-confrontational and also explored rather than confronted.</p><p>So, in my humble opinion, the most important factor is matching personalities. </p><p> </p><p>Congrats on your degree. I'm sure you will make many lives better. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 411884, member: 35"] As you know easy child/difficult child did out patient plus three inpatient programs. What did he learn that has helped a bit (he is an active alcoholic and probably still smokes pot on occasion but not on a regular basis)? He did learn about the actual dangers of heavy drugs. He had used a number of them and popped pills frequently. The degree of addiction, the long term side effects etc. combined with hearing personal experiences from heavy users impacted his choices for the future. The most important factor was the therapists. At different times and places he had some very arrogant therapists who put him on the defensive pronto. The personality match was not right. Just like in normal life some people "click" and others don't. In total he had three therapists who had a positive influence. The first woman at the outpatient program remains the most respected. She focused on him...not just "the addict". She gave him assignments that appeared to be a little bit silly to encourage him to explore his choices. For example, she had a chart (I still have it and easy child/difficult child recently saw it for the first time in many years) that showed faces displaying different emotions. There was a two sided laminated sheet with smileys, fearful, anger etc. that they used to identify how he was feeling about choices he made, people he was hanging out with etc. The talked about what qualities he admired in others and in himself. She kept her records secret if he shared experiences that might put him in jeopardy...and discussed the tools to avoid repeat poor choices.I've often wondered if programs couldn't try a match up and then meet with the addict with-o that therapist present to find the best combo. The other two therqpists were men who were fairly young and recovering addicts. They both were non-confrontational and also explored rather than confronted. So, in my humble opinion, the most important factor is matching personalities. Congrats on your degree. I'm sure you will make many lives better. DDD [/QUOTE]
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