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call 911........call 911
GNARLY -
OMG - please take a seat. It is possible that despite continuing "idiot-cyncracies" in his day to day life. This kid is thinking outside the narcissistic mirrored box that is his life. We call it the ME box.
He has been looking for a job -
He has been doing his community service -
He has been getting things like steros from community service thrift store that they throw away, fixing them, and selling them for his probation money - WHILE he looks for a job. He recently brought home 3 vacuum cleaners, tore them apart, thoroughly cleaned them, new belts, and sold them for $. At least he's TRYING to stay out of trouble and make money for his probation.
So with all this money - he had a chance to go to the beach this weekend. DF nearly (literally) taped my mouth shut so I would not say "Don't spend your money at the beach and Here is some spending money."
Nothing was said.....except prayers that wisemen would visit his brain.
So last night - he came home from the beach. He handed me all but $15 of the money he had earned for probation. He said "guys gotta eat." Then he asked DF to hold that money for his probation - because he didn't want to blow it. (I nearly fainted at his next statement) "You can use that money if you want to for groceries, I know you'll give it back to me when I need it." That? That is huge. He wanted to help with the food costs....even though he knew he'd get it back - it was still the first time he's handed us money and said 'help yourself'.
He told us about a car that he had found and how he plans to pay for it, put money up for license, tag, insurance. Asked if he buys the car can he keep it at our house so he won't be tempted to drive it? (omg are you serious?) Then he told us that we had "offered" to pay for 1/2 of his car if he paid 1/2 and we said "That still stands." He was elated. We asked when we have EVER gone back on a promise. He said "Never."
He has thought about it. He actually has been taking his medications from the removal of his wisdom teeth and doing the rinsing, keeping his room clean, and since the stereo at this foster family has been a problem - he took it apart and brought it back to the house. He said "Wasn't worth loosing my home over."
WHO IS THIS KID AND WHERE DID HE COME FROM? (you think dolphins took the other Dude out to sea and finally replaced him with the one I gave birth to?)
I'm sure there was a spaceship in my backyard about a week after he was born and left this alien baby....difficult child. Perhaps difficult child is gift from Ganna - 12th quadrant, 9th galaxy....super nova.??? lol
It's not anywhere near what we would like -but it's getting close enough for me to write now and then about it.
We just need to get over this upcoming court thing and we'll be a lot better off -
Thanks
OMG - please take a seat. It is possible that despite continuing "idiot-cyncracies" in his day to day life. This kid is thinking outside the narcissistic mirrored box that is his life. We call it the ME box.
He has been looking for a job -
He has been doing his community service -
He has been getting things like steros from community service thrift store that they throw away, fixing them, and selling them for his probation money - WHILE he looks for a job. He recently brought home 3 vacuum cleaners, tore them apart, thoroughly cleaned them, new belts, and sold them for $. At least he's TRYING to stay out of trouble and make money for his probation.
So with all this money - he had a chance to go to the beach this weekend. DF nearly (literally) taped my mouth shut so I would not say "Don't spend your money at the beach and Here is some spending money."
Nothing was said.....except prayers that wisemen would visit his brain.
So last night - he came home from the beach. He handed me all but $15 of the money he had earned for probation. He said "guys gotta eat." Then he asked DF to hold that money for his probation - because he didn't want to blow it. (I nearly fainted at his next statement) "You can use that money if you want to for groceries, I know you'll give it back to me when I need it." That? That is huge. He wanted to help with the food costs....even though he knew he'd get it back - it was still the first time he's handed us money and said 'help yourself'.
He told us about a car that he had found and how he plans to pay for it, put money up for license, tag, insurance. Asked if he buys the car can he keep it at our house so he won't be tempted to drive it? (omg are you serious?) Then he told us that we had "offered" to pay for 1/2 of his car if he paid 1/2 and we said "That still stands." He was elated. We asked when we have EVER gone back on a promise. He said "Never."
He has thought about it. He actually has been taking his medications from the removal of his wisdom teeth and doing the rinsing, keeping his room clean, and since the stereo at this foster family has been a problem - he took it apart and brought it back to the house. He said "Wasn't worth loosing my home over."
WHO IS THIS KID AND WHERE DID HE COME FROM? (you think dolphins took the other Dude out to sea and finally replaced him with the one I gave birth to?)
I'm sure there was a spaceship in my backyard about a week after he was born and left this alien baby....difficult child. Perhaps difficult child is gift from Ganna - 12th quadrant, 9th galaxy....super nova.??? lol It's not anywhere near what we would like -but it's getting close enough for me to write now and then about it.
We just need to get over this upcoming court thing and we'll be a lot better off -
Thanks
I'm keeping body parts crossed that he finds someone to hire him before frustration settles in. (little extra praying in that dept.)
