What else is new...but not as bad as in the past...that is the silver lining. UGH. difficult child had a pt job...kinda sorta. What she didn't know...what we didn't know...was that she was being evaluated for a job. She was working three weeks along with- 15 other young people. The company had an opening for 7 slots. She was not chosen. They had three different positions. Two were rather simplistic and were for people with severe learning disabilities and the like. They deemed her as being 'over qualified,' and said that she would get bored too quickly and leave. In the other scenario, they didn't think she was a good fit...it required more finesse than what she had. We noted and the social worker working with- her noted that overall she did fairly well during the three weeks she worked AND she had soooo much pride and happiness. Everyone noticed the improvements she has personally made. She walked one mile to and from the bus to get to work. We only drove her once or twice....on days it was raining. She also worked hard. But during one break, she was heard to be cussing. One day, she forgot her uniform. The other trainees did better....I did notice most trainees were getting dropped off by parents, etc. But she is 21, we are pushing for independence...feel it is important, etc. The very next day, difficult child was out looking and applying for a job and the social worker feels he might have a lead on something. difficult child also completed a two day child care course the other day and signed up to take the test (not sure of date). If she passes this portion, she will have her certification. Yesterday, during family therapy (we go once a month) the therapist got very mad at husband saying that he is not truly enabling her, but overly concerned with her welfare and she would like him to stop this. This was in reference to difficult child again allowing friends into her apt., which is the constant antecedent to an eviction. Both the therapist and I told husband that if difficult child continues to make the same mistakes and loses her home for awhile, that it would be very very difficult, but that there is little we can do. We can offer advice...provide help if she asks, but little more. It is interesting, sad, frustrating...but husband is basically in the same mind set I was in several years ago and I'm not sure what to do about it. Big question: husband is angry that therapist gave him the enabling speech in front of daughter. He said that she should have done this privately. difficult child smiled when therapist spoke with- husband...like a child. We have often thought that she has developmental delays. OR it could be just immaturity, etc. She just doesn't 'really' get it. Safety has NEVER been a big concern for her...for example, she often leaves her door unlocked and we live in an UNSAFE city. That was something else we worked on in therapy. husband says a young girl who would do that, needs some extra care and although he tries not to enable (allowing difficult child to feel the sting of poor choices) and pushes difficult child toward independence, he feels he has to make some distinctions. Any thoughts, in particular, about the therapist talking with- husband, in front of difficult child?