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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 654524" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Cinder,</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) for your hurting heart.</p><p></p><p>I know what you are going through. I too have wondered if this would be the day they found my son lying dead in an alley. I can't say that it will never go away but you will get to a point where you don't think about it all the time and when you do, you will be able to let it go. There is no magic answer, it's different for everyone.</p><p></p><p>All I can to you is you have to stay focused on your own life, not his. You know there is nothing you can do to change your son's life choices but you can change yours. You can choose to live your life for yourself, do things that you enjoy.</p><p></p><p></p><p>What is it that you think you think you owe your son? He has made his choice to live his life the way he wants. Do not let his choices hold you back. You have every right to live your life, to take trips, to have fun, to have joy, to be happy.</p><p>I do understand how you feel, I've been there but you know, life is too short to waste it on constant worry. Make your plans, live your life, take trips and have some fun, it's OK!!</p><p></p><p></p><p>You just do. Your life is valid, it's worth living. The acceptance comes when you decide to fully let go. You have to accept your son's life is his own and all the ugliness that can go with it.</p><p>I grew so weary of worrying about my son, where is he, what's he doing, is he alive or dead in an alley. There was nothing I could do to for him. I had to let him go and accept the fact that yes, one day I may very well get a call from the police telling me that my son was dead. Once I accepted the worst could really happen I was able to move on. It is what is. I can't change his path but I can change mine.</p><p>I also allowed myself to work through the grieving process. The grieving process is for loss and just the loss caused by a physical death. It really helped me to let go.</p><p></p><p>You will get through this. Stay close to this site. Trust that it's ok to let go, to move on and to live your life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 654524, member: 18516"] Hi Cinder, ((HUGS)) for your hurting heart. I know what you are going through. I too have wondered if this would be the day they found my son lying dead in an alley. I can't say that it will never go away but you will get to a point where you don't think about it all the time and when you do, you will be able to let it go. There is no magic answer, it's different for everyone. All I can to you is you have to stay focused on your own life, not his. You know there is nothing you can do to change your son's life choices but you can change yours. You can choose to live your life for yourself, do things that you enjoy. What is it that you think you think you owe your son? He has made his choice to live his life the way he wants. Do not let his choices hold you back. You have every right to live your life, to take trips, to have fun, to have joy, to be happy. I do understand how you feel, I've been there but you know, life is too short to waste it on constant worry. Make your plans, live your life, take trips and have some fun, it's OK!! You just do. Your life is valid, it's worth living. The acceptance comes when you decide to fully let go. You have to accept your son's life is his own and all the ugliness that can go with it. I grew so weary of worrying about my son, where is he, what's he doing, is he alive or dead in an alley. There was nothing I could do to for him. I had to let him go and accept the fact that yes, one day I may very well get a call from the police telling me that my son was dead. Once I accepted the worst could really happen I was able to move on. It is what is. I can't change his path but I can change mine. I also allowed myself to work through the grieving process. The grieving process is for loss and just the loss caused by a physical death. It really helped me to let go. You will get through this. Stay close to this site. Trust that it's ok to let go, to move on and to live your life. [/QUOTE]
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