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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 585299" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Amber...be kind to yourself. You have bipolar and many other challenges and when you're not stable, it's hard to take care of a well behaved child, let alone three who are challenging. I have been there. I also suffer from mental illnesses. Don't beat yourself up. I do suggest a new therapist. This one is awfully judgmental. I didn't think it was a therapist's job to judge, but to encourage you to make the right decisions for YOU.</p><p></p><p>Ok, now having said that <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> maybe it can be temporary. Once you get stable, you will probably feel differently about being able to parent all of your children. It hoovers that you have bipolar yet have had to raise these children alone and that ex is a krapola father. Can you maybe actually sit your child down and tell him the truth about why he is going to Dad's? That you are too sick to take care of all of them right now and that Dad won't take difficult child? That you will get him back as soon as you can (if that is the plan)? I'm always brutally honest with my kids. I dunno...it has always worked better for me to be honest. </p><p></p><p>This is a mess and I know you're looking for an apartment too. Sounds like everything is hitting the fan at the same time. Having felt the despair and inability to cope of a deep depression, I can not and will not condemn you for your decision, but I do urge you to try to make it temporary. And again FIRE THE THERAPIST! I would have gotten up and walked out of the room then burst into tears, but I never would have gone back again. Does the therapist have bipolar and three difficult children? If not, he is nobody to talk.</p><p></p><p>Gentle and loving hugs. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 585299, member: 1550"] Amber...be kind to yourself. You have bipolar and many other challenges and when you're not stable, it's hard to take care of a well behaved child, let alone three who are challenging. I have been there. I also suffer from mental illnesses. Don't beat yourself up. I do suggest a new therapist. This one is awfully judgmental. I didn't think it was a therapist's job to judge, but to encourage you to make the right decisions for YOU. Ok, now having said that :) maybe it can be temporary. Once you get stable, you will probably feel differently about being able to parent all of your children. It hoovers that you have bipolar yet have had to raise these children alone and that ex is a krapola father. Can you maybe actually sit your child down and tell him the truth about why he is going to Dad's? That you are too sick to take care of all of them right now and that Dad won't take difficult child? That you will get him back as soon as you can (if that is the plan)? I'm always brutally honest with my kids. I dunno...it has always worked better for me to be honest. This is a mess and I know you're looking for an apartment too. Sounds like everything is hitting the fan at the same time. Having felt the despair and inability to cope of a deep depression, I can not and will not condemn you for your decision, but I do urge you to try to make it temporary. And again FIRE THE THERAPIST! I would have gotten up and walked out of the room then burst into tears, but I never would have gone back again. Does the therapist have bipolar and three difficult children? If not, he is nobody to talk. Gentle and loving hugs. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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