It has become more and more difficult for me to remain in my house during my seperation from h, so over the weekend I decided I don't have to live there if it's making me uncomfortable. I have been thinking about buying a condo and I know if this separation becomes permanent, that is what I am going to do. In the meantime I was telling my sister in law what I was thinking of doing and my brother in law, who is my h's oldest brother, told me he has the perfect apartment for my daughter and I. He owns an apartment building and one of the apartments just became available. We went to see it yesterday and we both love it. I decided it's a good thing to do because he will charge us less rent, no lease and no security deposit. He owns the house that my h is renting now, so he will move out of there and back home and we will move out and into an apartment. I am excited about this. I don't feel that I am getting the time and space I need while living in the house to really think about what I want to do with my life. He is there everyday because his business equipment is there. I don't have privacy and he's annoying me more and more. He wants to be in the house and I don't. So it's the perfect solution. The apartment is really more like a condo. I will have a garage, then you go up one set of stairs to the livingroom kitchen and 1/2 bath, then up one more set to two bedrooms and a full bath. There are sliders in the kitchen that lead out to a small very private deck. It will be perfect for the two of us. My daughter is excited about the move and it is a nice safe place for her to live. I was getting freaked out being in my house because it is so big. We have an 80 foot L shaped ranch and our bedrooms are on the total opposite ends of the L, divided by the familyroom and livingroom. I wasn't looking forward to being in the house by ourselves all winter and I also wasn't looking forward to being there for the holidays. I feel like I have something to look forward to. The best thing is because my brother in law owns it, if I find out I made a mistake, I can just move out.