That was quick, huh? After just under 3 months, easy child/difficult child has realized that living with a couple in their condo is not a good idea. Turns out the guy was a pill popper and his behavior was quite erratic. Now, Mom and Dad's house wasn't looking so horrible after all, lol. No "I told you so's" or any of that business. She's welcome to come home as long as she helps out and understands that the same rules apply (to all of us, incidentally). She told him she was moving out last Monday and he harrassed her every day and she eventually felt unsafe, so she took Thursday off and her boyfriend helped her move EVERYTHING back home. Aiyee! She gave some used furniture to friends, so thank God, there is no clutter in my storage room. I am, hard-core, putting into place my best detachment skills. Although detaching doesn't always take away the biting edge when I want to say something, it does help me to keep my mouth closed. And so far I've been very good. She appears to also be on her best behavior. Something else I notice that I've done in the past...talk to one daughter about the other - not in a gossippy mean way, but just in a casual way, such as I would with H. For example, to easy child I might say "I hope difficult child goes to the party to meet boyfriend's kids" or to difficult child I might say "I wonder if easy child's boyfriend minds that she went to a concert with her exbf" sorts of things. It's just casual talk as anyone would have with or about other family members, but I have rethought that practice. I don't think it's healthy...never really gave it much thought before, but I am trying to be mindful of this as I believe on some level it may erode at their relationship, Know what I mean?? Anyway, just an aside about how I can improve. Anyway, so far so good.