We have seen many positive changes in easy child/difficult child since she graduated. She is becoming more social with us. In the last week she has come shopping with me 3 times (only once was for her). She also came to the pool with me Friday (hasn't done that since she was about 8 or 9) and yesterday decided to come to the family reunion after she said she wouldn't go if difficult child and her friend went. She has also hung out with husband; going to the movies and to the book store. husband and I both watched a movie with her. This is really good because she usually closes herself off to everyone. On the not good side? She cannot be nice to difficult child or his friend. She is so incredibly witchy. Seriously if you heard her speak to either you would think she was a *itch and wouldn't want to be anywhere near her. Yesterday she made difficult child's friend cry for about 20 minutes. He had thrown a snap at the side of her foot (he should not have done this, we talked about it, he realizes he was wrong even though he was angry at her for bossing him around so much-that's a nice way of putting it-it seemed worse than bossing). She screamed at him, locked difficult child and him out of the house (we were upstairs taking a nap), and told him he couldn't come over ever again. We were able to calm down difficult child's friend and let him know she was wrong (as well as he for throwing the snap) and assured him he was welcomed in our house and she had no power over him. The part that is so frustrating is she doesn't see that she did anything wrong. There is no reasoning with her when it comes to difficult child. The anger in her runs so deep. I even waited several hours to talk to her when she was more calmed down-didn't do any good. It's so disheartening to watch her like this, her entire body changes, the looks on her face, everything when she is around difficult child. I'm so happy to see progress in other areas but it is hard to be too optimistic when you see this side of her. Someone, please, tell me that she will not always be this way.