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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 595912" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm not worried at all. Just little wistful that my babies are growing up and I'm not the most important person in their lives any more. And bit lost on what I'm supposed to do now. And little bit jealous to me friends whose kids are still at pre school or who just had a baby. I'm 43 and while my kids were young and people pitied me for lost youth because of having kids so young (in local standards) I always told them that having kids young I would still be young when they moved out and I would have time to enjoy myself then. But now that this is becoming reality, I really don't know what to do with my time. We even seriously considered having one more kid couple years ago with husband, but decided against it. One more easy child would had been lovely, but we were not sure if we could have handled one more baby- and toddlerhood like with difficult child. I did mommytrack my career and while I don't regret a second, difficult child wouldn't had survived otherwise and I really enjoyed time I was at home or doing short hours to be more at home, now I'm left with nice job that I like, has reasonable hours and which pays decently but that doesn't challenge me much. I could change jobs but it is too late to build a career I dreamed of. I have my hobbies that I enjoy and I have started new ones after not needing to be a chauffeur all the time. But... Yeah, I really haven't yet figured out how I'm going to spend rest of my life and I'm hopefully just around middle point of it. (And yeah, I know these are real First World Problems and I shouldn't whine about them.)</p><p></p><p>I haven't spoken to the girl's parents (would be considered too pushy on local standards), but I will drop easy child off to the dock and I will see parents then. And (don't tell easy child, but) because I'm a worrywart I did ask a little bit around and because the world is small and both we and this family are part of even smaller minority, we do have friends who know this family. Sound very ordinary folk so I'm thinking they are unlikely to be chainsaw murderers who would use their daughter as a bait to allure teen boys to their boat to kill them and feed them to herrings (no sharks in our waters.) </p><p></p><p>This girl is also likely PCish. Not only because of easy child's taste (he really wouldn't go for troublesome girl, or even that quirky, his tastes tend to be very vanilla) but because of other things. Little Google search revealed some rather wholesome activities she is involved with, being polite to adults is a big sign and she is a school mate of easy child's. Our compulsory education ends after 9 grades and kids apply to different High Schools and their programs. Admissions are mostly based on grades and in some special programs also to other things. School easy child is in has special sport and music programs where not only grades but also level of sport or music kid does counts, but to be accepted to their general program (and this girl is on that) you have to have GPA of over 0,875 and around here, when 0,5 is already a pass and average is curved to 0,7-0,75 that is high. Most difficult children are not in top 10 % of their graduating classes like this girl has had to be had (okay, "has had to be had", that can't be correct but I can't figure out how I should say that.) Of course my difficult child did go to this same High school, so grades don't tell the whole story, but mostly they give you a good idea.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 595912, member: 14557"] I'm not worried at all. Just little wistful that my babies are growing up and I'm not the most important person in their lives any more. And bit lost on what I'm supposed to do now. And little bit jealous to me friends whose kids are still at pre school or who just had a baby. I'm 43 and while my kids were young and people pitied me for lost youth because of having kids so young (in local standards) I always told them that having kids young I would still be young when they moved out and I would have time to enjoy myself then. But now that this is becoming reality, I really don't know what to do with my time. We even seriously considered having one more kid couple years ago with husband, but decided against it. One more easy child would had been lovely, but we were not sure if we could have handled one more baby- and toddlerhood like with difficult child. I did mommytrack my career and while I don't regret a second, difficult child wouldn't had survived otherwise and I really enjoyed time I was at home or doing short hours to be more at home, now I'm left with nice job that I like, has reasonable hours and which pays decently but that doesn't challenge me much. I could change jobs but it is too late to build a career I dreamed of. I have my hobbies that I enjoy and I have started new ones after not needing to be a chauffeur all the time. But... Yeah, I really haven't yet figured out how I'm going to spend rest of my life and I'm hopefully just around middle point of it. (And yeah, I know these are real First World Problems and I shouldn't whine about them.) I haven't spoken to the girl's parents (would be considered too pushy on local standards), but I will drop easy child off to the dock and I will see parents then. And (don't tell easy child, but) because I'm a worrywart I did ask a little bit around and because the world is small and both we and this family are part of even smaller minority, we do have friends who know this family. Sound very ordinary folk so I'm thinking they are unlikely to be chainsaw murderers who would use their daughter as a bait to allure teen boys to their boat to kill them and feed them to herrings (no sharks in our waters.) This girl is also likely PCish. Not only because of easy child's taste (he really wouldn't go for troublesome girl, or even that quirky, his tastes tend to be very vanilla) but because of other things. Little Google search revealed some rather wholesome activities she is involved with, being polite to adults is a big sign and she is a school mate of easy child's. Our compulsory education ends after 9 grades and kids apply to different High Schools and their programs. Admissions are mostly based on grades and in some special programs also to other things. School easy child is in has special sport and music programs where not only grades but also level of sport or music kid does counts, but to be accepted to their general program (and this girl is on that) you have to have GPA of over 0,875 and around here, when 0,5 is already a pass and average is curved to 0,7-0,75 that is high. Most difficult children are not in top 10 % of their graduating classes like this girl has had to be had (okay, "has had to be had", that can't be correct but I can't figure out how I should say that.) Of course my difficult child did go to this same High school, so grades don't tell the whole story, but mostly they give you a good idea. [/QUOTE]
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