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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 126834" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I dunno. It all makes me nuts. </p><p>Between schools and docs here local, it is enough to keep a saint from getting into Heaven, sometimes, I swear. </p><p></p><p>There was a time- when difficult child was still in school- her attendance was awful- she had serious issues with her bipolar and panic and medication reactions etc. They called and demanded I come get her every single day for a year. We were hammering out IEP- met weekly- but they did not even want to try to follow the iep- if she seemed nervous, they sent her home. Her doctor was called every single day of that school year- honestly.....and every single morning I sent her to school, took her myself, and wound up within the hour going to get her. </p><p>Then they decided she had an attendance "problem" - wanted to call it truancy- except she was there every single day. Then they got this idea that every morning she had to check in with school nurse, and school nurse would determine if she was "sick" or not. School nurse would determine this by------takeing her temperature. </p><p>Then the school itself got to fighting amongst themselves, nurse saying she was not sick, teachers and dean saying no, send her home- and they absolutely would NOT listen to input from doctor or me. In eventual due process, the hearing officer got so sick of it, she told me to homeschool. </p><p></p><p>I think a lot of times doctors maybe do not understand school rules etc and ecused absences etc.....and I KNOW schools do not always understand illness......and schools want kids at school becuz absence affects their funding and of course it does also affect kids grades.....</p><p>but I want to stand up and scream, becuz common sense and logic seems to take a back seat to everything else. </p><p></p><p>After my sons eye surgeries, which were kind of dramatic.....(he poked his eye out, local ER said his eye was fine eye specialist said 4 days later, NO< the globe is ruptured and leaking etc, son had 2 9 hour long surgeries at univ teachning hospital-----his eye is very damaged, and sightless) well, when he went back to school finally- the eye is of course very scarred. doctor does not want son to wear a patch over it, he had a reason, but at the moment, the reason escapes me......now my son missed 3 full months of school due to being at the univ hospital- and eye surgery has it's own restrictions etc on mobility etc.....and we were staying at a Ronald McDonald House. OK school had all this info-----the main office knew, the nurses office knew, all his teachers knew....evryone involved with his IEP team knew. they had ALL his records about it, had all these meetings about it.....and yet his first week back to school some teacher would grab him in the hallway and pull him to nurse, and they would call me on phone and demand I take my son to local ER to be checked for Pink Eye. They would ream me for sending a kid with possible contagious pink eye.....they would threaten my son when he would defend himself and say "this is a surgical eye" - they would call him a liar, and threaten detention for his lying. Not once, not twice..this occured several times a week. On the phone in front of my son, they would make rude comments to me like- no doctor would LEAVE an eye looking like THIS, it's UGLY. </p><p></p><p>SO we got eye surgeon to permit sunglasses.....well, sunglasses are not permitted in school- so then son would get in trouble for that- even tho he had a docs order. </p><p></p><p>It gets tiresome trying to explain to a doctor why the school wants or needs certain things certain ways and it gets frustrating when school personnel have no clue and do not understand what a doctor is doing. It is so frustrating to be the parent caught in the middle and I have to imagine it is especially awful to be the kid caught in the middle of it all! </p><p></p><p>So the doctor just assumes school will understand, hey this kid is sick, and maybe cannot tolerate school while she has penumonia......and the school, I suppose, is thinking, if she is THAT ill, why didn't the doctor demand she not go to school? I dunno. </p><p></p><p>I am glad the school sent her home, it should let us off the hook for her attendance now at least for the moment. BUT it sure put her thru more than she should have had to have been put thru. </p><p></p><p>Ah bureacracy. Politics, red tape, head games, power struggles.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 126834, member: 1697"] I dunno. It all makes me nuts. Between schools and docs here local, it is enough to keep a saint from getting into Heaven, sometimes, I swear. There was a time- when difficult child was still in school- her attendance was awful- she had serious issues with her bipolar and panic and medication reactions etc. They called and demanded I come get her every single day for a year. We were hammering out IEP- met weekly- but they did not even want to try to follow the iep- if she seemed nervous, they sent her home. Her doctor was called every single day of that school year- honestly.....and every single morning I sent her to school, took her myself, and wound up within the hour going to get her. Then they decided she had an attendance "problem" - wanted to call it truancy- except she was there every single day. Then they got this idea that every morning she had to check in with school nurse, and school nurse would determine if she was "sick" or not. School nurse would determine this by------takeing her temperature. Then the school itself got to fighting amongst themselves, nurse saying she was not sick, teachers and dean saying no, send her home- and they absolutely would NOT listen to input from doctor or me. In eventual due process, the hearing officer got so sick of it, she told me to homeschool. I think a lot of times doctors maybe do not understand school rules etc and ecused absences etc.....and I KNOW schools do not always understand illness......and schools want kids at school becuz absence affects their funding and of course it does also affect kids grades..... but I want to stand up and scream, becuz common sense and logic seems to take a back seat to everything else. After my sons eye surgeries, which were kind of dramatic.....(he poked his eye out, local ER said his eye was fine eye specialist said 4 days later, NO< the globe is ruptured and leaking etc, son had 2 9 hour long surgeries at univ teachning hospital-----his eye is very damaged, and sightless) well, when he went back to school finally- the eye is of course very scarred. doctor does not want son to wear a patch over it, he had a reason, but at the moment, the reason escapes me......now my son missed 3 full months of school due to being at the univ hospital- and eye surgery has it's own restrictions etc on mobility etc.....and we were staying at a Ronald McDonald House. OK school had all this info-----the main office knew, the nurses office knew, all his teachers knew....evryone involved with his IEP team knew. they had ALL his records about it, had all these meetings about it.....and yet his first week back to school some teacher would grab him in the hallway and pull him to nurse, and they would call me on phone and demand I take my son to local ER to be checked for Pink Eye. They would ream me for sending a kid with possible contagious pink eye.....they would threaten my son when he would defend himself and say "this is a surgical eye" - they would call him a liar, and threaten detention for his lying. Not once, not twice..this occured several times a week. On the phone in front of my son, they would make rude comments to me like- no doctor would LEAVE an eye looking like THIS, it's UGLY. SO we got eye surgeon to permit sunglasses.....well, sunglasses are not permitted in school- so then son would get in trouble for that- even tho he had a docs order. It gets tiresome trying to explain to a doctor why the school wants or needs certain things certain ways and it gets frustrating when school personnel have no clue and do not understand what a doctor is doing. It is so frustrating to be the parent caught in the middle and I have to imagine it is especially awful to be the kid caught in the middle of it all! So the doctor just assumes school will understand, hey this kid is sick, and maybe cannot tolerate school while she has penumonia......and the school, I suppose, is thinking, if she is THAT ill, why didn't the doctor demand she not go to school? I dunno. I am glad the school sent her home, it should let us off the hook for her attendance now at least for the moment. BUT it sure put her thru more than she should have had to have been put thru. Ah bureacracy. Politics, red tape, head games, power struggles. [/QUOTE]
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