Californiablonde
Well-Known Member
I posted a few weeks ago that easy child's dad texted me telling me he can't live with him any longer. Apparently his wife is too stressed out to take him to school and then pick him up at the after school program. His dad can't take him to school and pick him up due to working long hours and living an hour and a half away from his job. I told him I can't take him in right now due to the fact that I only have a one bedroom apartment and simply don't have the money to move right now. Plus easy child absolutely loves his new school and has made lots of friends there, something not to easy for a kid with autism to do. easy child just moved in with him last April and I don't think it's fair to him to be bounced around.
Well I get an email at work today from his dad telling me I have to take him back. I don't have a choice in the matter. His wife is refusing to take him to school any longer, plus he said his house isn't a very good environment for easy child to be in right now. Basically he couldn't handle having his own kid full time, at least his wife couldn't . Right now I am so broke due to not working in the summer and I had to ask a coworker at my job for help getting food. It is her job to help needy families, and since my daughter goes to school here, I had to humble myself and ask her for help. She is going down to a food bank and getting an emergency supply of food for me plus getting difficult child free breakfast and lunch from the school for the rest of the year. I don't get my first paycheck till the 24th, so till then I will be living off a small amount of food. I told my ex my situation, and he said he can give me a little money, but I have to take my son back this weekend.
So what else am I supposed to say to that? I can't force him to take his son when he doesn't want him. He also had the nerve to tell me in the email that I am the one who wanted to have kids in the first place and he didn't! Which is a total lie. difficult child was planned from day one. He already had two children from another marriage, and I told him right up front in our relationship that it wouldn't work out between us unless he agreed to have another child with me. He said he would love to have another child, and when I found out I was pregnant he was so happy. He went to most of my doctor's appointments and was there for the birth. He took a zillion pics of difficult child when she was a baby. He totally wanted her and now he's saying it was all my idea about having kids. With easy child we weren't trying to get pregnant, but I ran out of birth control pills and my appointment wasn't until a couple weeks later. i asked him to use a condom and he refused, saying we could use the withdrawal method and it would work. Well it didn't, and we had easy child. Now he is blaming me for getting pregnant with him in the first place, which is total BS!
Anyway, I am going to have to sneak in easy child to my apartment. We live in a one bedroom apartment and he is not on the lease. I am going to have to try and save up enough money for a two bedroom once I start getting regular child support again. I called the school where easy child will be attending and they said they have free after school care Monday through Thursday. No care on Fridays. So I think I will have to take a very late lunch break on Fridays and take him home after school. Otherwise he would be stuck at the school for two and half hours until I got off work. I will have to drop him off 45 minutes early before school. Hopefully that won't be a problem with the school. I am going to have to take the day off work on Monday to get him enrolled at the new school. I feel so bad for easy child. He loves the school he is at now, has made good friends there, and now he is going to be yanked into a completely different school environment. Something that is hard enough for a regular kid to handle, but him being an Aspie it only makes it so much harder for him. Please keep my son in your thoughts and prayers for the next few weeks. Hopefully he will adjust well.
Well I get an email at work today from his dad telling me I have to take him back. I don't have a choice in the matter. His wife is refusing to take him to school any longer, plus he said his house isn't a very good environment for easy child to be in right now. Basically he couldn't handle having his own kid full time, at least his wife couldn't . Right now I am so broke due to not working in the summer and I had to ask a coworker at my job for help getting food. It is her job to help needy families, and since my daughter goes to school here, I had to humble myself and ask her for help. She is going down to a food bank and getting an emergency supply of food for me plus getting difficult child free breakfast and lunch from the school for the rest of the year. I don't get my first paycheck till the 24th, so till then I will be living off a small amount of food. I told my ex my situation, and he said he can give me a little money, but I have to take my son back this weekend.
So what else am I supposed to say to that? I can't force him to take his son when he doesn't want him. He also had the nerve to tell me in the email that I am the one who wanted to have kids in the first place and he didn't! Which is a total lie. difficult child was planned from day one. He already had two children from another marriage, and I told him right up front in our relationship that it wouldn't work out between us unless he agreed to have another child with me. He said he would love to have another child, and when I found out I was pregnant he was so happy. He went to most of my doctor's appointments and was there for the birth. He took a zillion pics of difficult child when she was a baby. He totally wanted her and now he's saying it was all my idea about having kids. With easy child we weren't trying to get pregnant, but I ran out of birth control pills and my appointment wasn't until a couple weeks later. i asked him to use a condom and he refused, saying we could use the withdrawal method and it would work. Well it didn't, and we had easy child. Now he is blaming me for getting pregnant with him in the first place, which is total BS!
Anyway, I am going to have to sneak in easy child to my apartment. We live in a one bedroom apartment and he is not on the lease. I am going to have to try and save up enough money for a two bedroom once I start getting regular child support again. I called the school where easy child will be attending and they said they have free after school care Monday through Thursday. No care on Fridays. So I think I will have to take a very late lunch break on Fridays and take him home after school. Otherwise he would be stuck at the school for two and half hours until I got off work. I will have to drop him off 45 minutes early before school. Hopefully that won't be a problem with the school. I am going to have to take the day off work on Monday to get him enrolled at the new school. I feel so bad for easy child. He loves the school he is at now, has made good friends there, and now he is going to be yanked into a completely different school environment. Something that is hard enough for a regular kid to handle, but him being an Aspie it only makes it so much harder for him. Please keep my son in your thoughts and prayers for the next few weeks. Hopefully he will adjust well.