hearts and roses
Mind Reader
Listen to this and tell me what you think?
Next week, I have to go to FL for business and H is joining me. We will be staying over in FL from Thurs - Sun. While we're gone, exh is coming up to CT to take easy child and difficult child and their respective boyfriend's to a hockey game.
easy child extended an invitation for him to SLEEP AT MY HOUSE!!!!
OMG. I asked her where he would sleep. She said in her room. I then asked her where she and boyfriend will sleep. She said IN MY BED. She said, "I will change the sheets, I know you're weird about that". I said I didn't like that idea. If dad slept over, he could have the couch and she and boyfriend could stay in her room. I don't like anyone in my bedroom, let alone my bed!!! Ugh.
I was really peaved and told her so. Told her she had no business extending an invitation for her dad to sleep at our house while we're gone and that I thought it presumptuous of her to do so. She bawked and said that she thought it would be okay since we're not going to be there. She said she thought it was okay and that it would have been weirder if we were home. I said, "In fact, it makes me even more uncomfortable that I won't be here than if I was here", which she didn't get at all.
I have a cordial relationship with exh. Current H and exh were friends growing up, so there is a level of awkwardness, but we're all friendly enough and cordial. H and I can smell exh BS a mile a way so we have little patience when he's rattling on about something we know is untrue, but we can tolerate him in small doses. I have my own issues with him concerning lack of financial support over the years, lack of understanding and cooperation concerning both easy child and difficult child and all her issues. But overall, I'd say we're okay - fragile at times, but much better now that the girls are grown, but you know what I mean. We deal.
So, I was thinking of calling exh to discuss holiday wish lists and casually mention the game and his coming up here and then ask if he will be staying at his usual hotel. I figure if I throw it out there, he will either get the hint and stay at the hotel or he will assume that easy child never told me about his staying at our home. I think he would rather stay at the hotel anyway. It's only $50/night (it's a bit of a dump) and it's local. easy child said she thought it would be nice to save him some money!!! I figure he owes me way more than that in back support so he should be able to handle $50. Yeesh!!
So, what do you think? Am I overreacting?
Next week, I have to go to FL for business and H is joining me. We will be staying over in FL from Thurs - Sun. While we're gone, exh is coming up to CT to take easy child and difficult child and their respective boyfriend's to a hockey game.
easy child extended an invitation for him to SLEEP AT MY HOUSE!!!!
OMG. I asked her where he would sleep. She said in her room. I then asked her where she and boyfriend will sleep. She said IN MY BED. She said, "I will change the sheets, I know you're weird about that". I said I didn't like that idea. If dad slept over, he could have the couch and she and boyfriend could stay in her room. I don't like anyone in my bedroom, let alone my bed!!! Ugh.
I was really peaved and told her so. Told her she had no business extending an invitation for her dad to sleep at our house while we're gone and that I thought it presumptuous of her to do so. She bawked and said that she thought it would be okay since we're not going to be there. She said she thought it was okay and that it would have been weirder if we were home. I said, "In fact, it makes me even more uncomfortable that I won't be here than if I was here", which she didn't get at all.
I have a cordial relationship with exh. Current H and exh were friends growing up, so there is a level of awkwardness, but we're all friendly enough and cordial. H and I can smell exh BS a mile a way so we have little patience when he's rattling on about something we know is untrue, but we can tolerate him in small doses. I have my own issues with him concerning lack of financial support over the years, lack of understanding and cooperation concerning both easy child and difficult child and all her issues. But overall, I'd say we're okay - fragile at times, but much better now that the girls are grown, but you know what I mean. We deal.
So, I was thinking of calling exh to discuss holiday wish lists and casually mention the game and his coming up here and then ask if he will be staying at his usual hotel. I figure if I throw it out there, he will either get the hint and stay at the hotel or he will assume that easy child never told me about his staying at our home. I think he would rather stay at the hotel anyway. It's only $50/night (it's a bit of a dump) and it's local. easy child said she thought it would be nice to save him some money!!! I figure he owes me way more than that in back support so he should be able to handle $50. Yeesh!!
So, what do you think? Am I overreacting?