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flutterbee
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You know, my kids never do anything half-way.
He made it to his senior year by the skin of his teeth. Couldn't do a thing to get him motivated before. This year he's taking a full load - not the Senior Year Slack like his peers are doing because they passed by more than the skin of their teeth and have enough credits to graduate without carrying a full load. As it is, he has to get at least one work credit to have enough credits.
He is very motivated this year. Not just to pass, but to get good grades. His guidance counselor tried to get him to take a study hall and get two work credits (which he could easily do - doesn't require a lot of hours), but he took FST (Figures, Statistics and Trigonometry) instead. Plus, pre-calculus, government, economics, psychology, sociology and I don't know what else.
On top of that he's working at least 30 hours a week and gets upset when they schedule him for less and bumps people of the schedule. He only has one day off a week and it's not a weekend day. So, he goes to school 5 days a week (and his classes this year have a lot more homework than prior years - or maybe it's just that he's actually DOING it this year), works 4 days during the school week and then works 8 hour shifts both Saturday and Sunday. 2 Saturdays ago he worked 14 hours. He is paying for his car insurance (half, my mom is paying the other half for him) and his cell phone and gas, of course, but it wouldn't require so many hours.
Plus, he has to fit in his girlfriend. I really like her, but she's....hmmmm...very needy. She needs a lot of reassurance. And she gets really upset over stupid things. For example, after work a couple of weekends ago she had a friend over and he had friends over here. He asked her if she wanted to come over. That wasn't good enough because he didn't say he wanted her to come over and that ended up in a 2 hour argument over the phone - Devon in my room while his friends are in his room - and he was crying by the end of it. And he still wants to fit in his friends. I don't even ask him for help around the house anymore. He does things on his own that need done and anything else I just leave alone.
He is so stressed. He's not getting enough sleep. And it's getting to him. He's been sick for over a week now. He is head over heels in love with his girlfriend, but he's made the comment twice in the last two days that he can't take it anymore. He was really struggling with his FST homework and said he just can't think anymore.
I'm stepping back. I'm telling him he's stressed, that he's overdoing, that he's not getting enough sleep.
Sigh. This is a new stage of parenting for me. I don't like it. I want to be the mom and step in and fix it, but I know he has to do what he has to do.
No point really to this thread. Just needed to get that off my chest.
He made it to his senior year by the skin of his teeth. Couldn't do a thing to get him motivated before. This year he's taking a full load - not the Senior Year Slack like his peers are doing because they passed by more than the skin of their teeth and have enough credits to graduate without carrying a full load. As it is, he has to get at least one work credit to have enough credits.
He is very motivated this year. Not just to pass, but to get good grades. His guidance counselor tried to get him to take a study hall and get two work credits (which he could easily do - doesn't require a lot of hours), but he took FST (Figures, Statistics and Trigonometry) instead. Plus, pre-calculus, government, economics, psychology, sociology and I don't know what else.
On top of that he's working at least 30 hours a week and gets upset when they schedule him for less and bumps people of the schedule. He only has one day off a week and it's not a weekend day. So, he goes to school 5 days a week (and his classes this year have a lot more homework than prior years - or maybe it's just that he's actually DOING it this year), works 4 days during the school week and then works 8 hour shifts both Saturday and Sunday. 2 Saturdays ago he worked 14 hours. He is paying for his car insurance (half, my mom is paying the other half for him) and his cell phone and gas, of course, but it wouldn't require so many hours.
Plus, he has to fit in his girlfriend. I really like her, but she's....hmmmm...very needy. She needs a lot of reassurance. And she gets really upset over stupid things. For example, after work a couple of weekends ago she had a friend over and he had friends over here. He asked her if she wanted to come over. That wasn't good enough because he didn't say he wanted her to come over and that ended up in a 2 hour argument over the phone - Devon in my room while his friends are in his room - and he was crying by the end of it. And he still wants to fit in his friends. I don't even ask him for help around the house anymore. He does things on his own that need done and anything else I just leave alone.
He is so stressed. He's not getting enough sleep. And it's getting to him. He's been sick for over a week now. He is head over heels in love with his girlfriend, but he's made the comment twice in the last two days that he can't take it anymore. He was really struggling with his FST homework and said he just can't think anymore.
I'm stepping back. I'm telling him he's stressed, that he's overdoing, that he's not getting enough sleep.
Sigh. This is a new stage of parenting for me. I don't like it. I want to be the mom and step in and fix it, but I know he has to do what he has to do.
No point really to this thread. Just needed to get that off my chest.
