difficult child has been violating easy child's privacy again and she left in tears last night for her friend's house. I suspect most of these items are recycled from the box I had thought I'd hidden in my ofc closet, in addition to some of easy child's, and don't know if difficult child is getting her things from the laundry or her room. We all went to see Momix tonight (which was great, although difficult child did not understand any of the interpretive work, which was most of it. I can't find the home page but this one has a great video http://pcagreatperformances.org/2007-08/momix/) difficult child was totally negative through the whole thing but I am glad we took him. He needs to be exposed to something besides PS2 (which is going to disappear tomorrow while he's at school). Anyway, easy child spoke to husband and me privately, as we went in separate cars, and said she's not coming back. She met with-Dr. R this a.m. and he thinks it's a good idea for her to have some space. We are all going to meet with-him sometime soon, in addition to the regular appointment. I have with-difficult child. I am very depressed and cannot focus right now. I'm so glad it's time to go to bed. And I do not have to do carpool in the a.m. And difficult child's lunch is already made. I'm wondering if I can swap out my office for her bedroom. I just spoke to her on the ph and she liked that idea. There's a lock on the door and electric heat in here. It will be a monumental task and I will hire a handyman to do it. (I just blew a bundle of $ on the Momix tix but heck, that's what credit cards are for. ) I'm tempted to hire a handyman to rip out the doorframe of her room, but frankly, this is easier. It's just moving stuff around. Plus, she'll have heat. She has heat in her room but with-crummy insulation, it's like no heat at all. She is coming home for dinner tomorrow night and the 4 of us will discuss the issue and make sure that difficult child understands the impact he has had on her. She has always been his idol. I don't want to throw him into a major depression, but I think he may need a bit of shock therapy (excuse the expression). I know it will take a while to sink in. One part of me wants to wring his neck, because easy child is the light in our lives--always singing, the happiest person you would ever want to meet--and he has impacted her so much in these 12 yrs, and I feel like we're losing the good part of our lives. But on the other hand, I have an obligation to difficult child, too, and cannot give up on him. He is too young to understand all the nuances of this. I feel like I'm being torn in two. The good part is that easy child has a car and she's in school, and she is safe with-friends. I am calling her friend's mom tomorrow to straighten out details, and calling her boyfriend's mom to give her a heads-up to let her know that easy child is on the loose. Well, hey, I'm still a mom and I'm not brain dead.