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easy child, older friends, drinking. Does this worrying ever end?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 551547" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I had a good talk with easy child about choosing friends, peer pressure and staying levelheaded. He seems to somewhat understand our worries though he of course thinks he would never do anything too stupid or go overboard on trying to be a cool kid. I tried to encourage him to find new friends from school and spend time with class mates and also stay in touch with old friends from neighbourhood. Talked with him how 'small' his world could become if he only socialises with people from his sport. That especially if he becomes pro athlete some day, it will be very important to have that balance that only old friends who are not related to the sport can give him.</p><p></p><p>husband also talked with him about how much getting caught by trying to be cool could cost him sport wise. There are few recent, very good warning cases in his sport with kids easy child even knows somewhat personally. There was one very 'good' example in adult level of the organization easy child was part of last year. And that case easy child saw from close and even knows a kid (who is a friend of difficult child's). Very talented, very hyped kid, bought his own hype for the short time and crashed. And got really harsh treatment from his coaches and from media for it. Seems to have turned it around again, which of course is an awesome thing, he is a good kid. Also a very good lesson for easy child to see if he would just adhere it. </p><p></p><p>I also got an offer of help from more unexpected direction. I joked with difficult child's positional coach (who called about difficult child's school worries) about having a lousy parenting day and please not to tell me more bad news about difficult child. easy child will be in difficult child's city to play later this month and difficult child's coach offered to ask one of difficult child's team mates to have a talk with easy child. He was 15 years ago in the position there he was considered an exceptional talent and having a very bright future. Unfortunately he was more concerned on being a coolest kid in the town and less about doing his work. He ended up having a much more modest career than was expected. Apparently he is a smart guy who accepts his own errors and how his career end up to be and is cool with it now. But it has been harsh road for him and has taught him a lot. Part of the reason they did hire him to the team (he is nowadays a marginal player, who could easily be replaced by younger and cheaper player) was to mentor their many youngish players and maybe continue as a coach in the organization after his career. I do hope he has time to have a talk with easy child. It could be an eye-opener for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 551547, member: 14557"] I had a good talk with easy child about choosing friends, peer pressure and staying levelheaded. He seems to somewhat understand our worries though he of course thinks he would never do anything too stupid or go overboard on trying to be a cool kid. I tried to encourage him to find new friends from school and spend time with class mates and also stay in touch with old friends from neighbourhood. Talked with him how 'small' his world could become if he only socialises with people from his sport. That especially if he becomes pro athlete some day, it will be very important to have that balance that only old friends who are not related to the sport can give him. husband also talked with him about how much getting caught by trying to be cool could cost him sport wise. There are few recent, very good warning cases in his sport with kids easy child even knows somewhat personally. There was one very 'good' example in adult level of the organization easy child was part of last year. And that case easy child saw from close and even knows a kid (who is a friend of difficult child's). Very talented, very hyped kid, bought his own hype for the short time and crashed. And got really harsh treatment from his coaches and from media for it. Seems to have turned it around again, which of course is an awesome thing, he is a good kid. Also a very good lesson for easy child to see if he would just adhere it. I also got an offer of help from more unexpected direction. I joked with difficult child's positional coach (who called about difficult child's school worries) about having a lousy parenting day and please not to tell me more bad news about difficult child. easy child will be in difficult child's city to play later this month and difficult child's coach offered to ask one of difficult child's team mates to have a talk with easy child. He was 15 years ago in the position there he was considered an exceptional talent and having a very bright future. Unfortunately he was more concerned on being a coolest kid in the town and less about doing his work. He ended up having a much more modest career than was expected. Apparently he is a smart guy who accepts his own errors and how his career end up to be and is cool with it now. But it has been harsh road for him and has taught him a lot. Part of the reason they did hire him to the team (he is nowadays a marginal player, who could easily be replaced by younger and cheaper player) was to mentor their many youngish players and maybe continue as a coach in the organization after his career. I do hope he has time to have a talk with easy child. It could be an eye-opener for him. [/QUOTE]
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