What do you do when you have trouble liking your child? L, 8, has anxiety which can cause annoying behavior but I can deal with that. She is the most selfish, greedy child I have ever known, that is what is giving me trouble. I have tried going out of my way to give and give to her in an attempt to fill the void she seems to have but it isnt possible. An example, I spent the afternoon/evening out with her, bought clothes just for her, went out to eat about 5 hours just about her. It is very draining spending that much time with her, on the way home I asked her if we could have quiet time, that my ears needed a rest. She got teary eyed and told me I hurt her feelings. Every time I leave the house she wants to go, never mind the other kids get a turn or I get time alone. This hunger for attention goes into eating as well. She has told me she never gets full, we are constantly telling her she has had enough, left to her own, she would easily out eat my 15 yo teen. She is overweight. She is a child who tries to get the teachers to feel sorry for her so she gets more attention. She pretends we havent given her a lunch so the teachers tell her to buy, She has told them we would not help with her homework when what actually happened was we required her to do all she could by herself BEFORE we would help because we are trying to get her to see herself as capable instead of the helpless victim she likes to be. At times she will say she doesnt know what 2 + 2 equal. Anyway this has turned into a vent (and it felt good) but I really would like ideas about how you would handle her. At this point I have stopped trying to give so much to her and am trying to teach her that she only gets attention when she is nice to be around. Im at a loss with the eating except to limit her amounts. I want her to feel satisfied .with something. Did I mention she is very negative in her outlook toward life?