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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 433323" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>It seems inevitable that this will cause more stress on you. You will be the one making sure she sticks to the rules, and if not, issuing consequences. That is a ton of stress, and you already have difficult child you do this with.</p><p></p><p>It will definitely cause stress on difficult child who has started to deal with not having a sister at home, and now she is going to come home? That will just cause more flare-ups for difficult child equaling more stress on you.</p><p></p><p>If I were you, I would not enter into this deal. It seems to me she is using you - as you said she now "needs" us - aka "using" you. NOT a good reason to move back home. </p><p></p><p>If she now has a job, why not offer to pay the first month rent on a small efficiency near the job (so she can walk to work), and then let her grow up. She really in my opinion is too old to move back in with Mom.</p><p></p><p>I know you miss her. I also think perhaps you subconsciously want her to be back home with you. Asking yourself why you need/want her back home would be very therapeutic. What hole does she fill in your soul? What need does she satisfy? And then when you find out what is at the root of wanting her back at home - make a decision to let her go. Let her be free to go into the world to become the beautiful woman she is meant to be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 433323, member: 3301"] It seems inevitable that this will cause more stress on you. You will be the one making sure she sticks to the rules, and if not, issuing consequences. That is a ton of stress, and you already have difficult child you do this with. It will definitely cause stress on difficult child who has started to deal with not having a sister at home, and now she is going to come home? That will just cause more flare-ups for difficult child equaling more stress on you. If I were you, I would not enter into this deal. It seems to me she is using you - as you said she now "needs" us - aka "using" you. NOT a good reason to move back home. If she now has a job, why not offer to pay the first month rent on a small efficiency near the job (so she can walk to work), and then let her grow up. She really in my opinion is too old to move back in with Mom. I know you miss her. I also think perhaps you subconsciously want her to be back home with you. Asking yourself why you need/want her back home would be very therapeutic. What hole does she fill in your soul? What need does she satisfy? And then when you find out what is at the root of wanting her back at home - make a decision to let her go. Let her be free to go into the world to become the beautiful woman she is meant to be. [/QUOTE]
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