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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 102972" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I don't know that you can call her a easy child anymore, Carolanne. Maybe it's time to change her status to difficult child 2.</p><p></p><p>What is it about turning 16 that makes her think that "they" are magically going to put her into a group home? There's no age limit on group homes. She has no idea of what that situation would be like. Having lived in that situation when I was a girl, I can tell you right now, she won't like it.</p><p></p><p>It's true that the adults won't dote on her the way you have, and she might find that freeing in an odd way from time to time. They also won't buy her anything for personal use. They won't give her an allowance. Anything nice that she <em>does</em> have she'll have to keep on her person at all times because otherwise eventually it <em>will</em> be stolen from her. I hope she likes sh*t on a shingle and tuna casserole, because she'll be eating a lot of it. And she can forget about soda pop, fast food, private lessons of any kind, or after school activities that cost money. Also, kiss goodbye going anywhere that isn't on the group home's activity schedule. No visiting friends, no overnighters. Then again, every night will be like an overnighter, because even in the smallest bedroom, she will find two sets of bunkbeds. And she needs to get used to sleeping with those valuable items too (I slept with a great big purse). There will be assigned daily chores. Mine was to vacuum the living and family room every morning before school. (With my purse on my shoulder). On weekends there was the full house cleaning. My job was windows. One of the girl's jobs was to pincurl "mom's" hair. There will be difficult child's there that will steal her limelight like she never thought anyone could. If she thought <em>one</em> difficult child sibling was bad, wait until she has ten. </p><p></p><p>If I were you, I would let her know in no uncertain terms that you will do nothing to stop her from her goal of living in the lovely group home that she dreams of. And that you will welcome her back whenever she wants to come home and act her age. That age being 15. Not 12, and not 30.</p><p></p><p>I'm pretty sure that you won't tell her what my dad told me. "Do what you want because you could go out and play in the freeway right now and get hit by a car and die and I couldn't care less."</p><p></p><p>Harumph! Sorry for being grouchy about this, it obviously struck a nerve. I <em>thought</em> that was what I wanted when I was about her age too. She's lucky that you value her enough to want her well and home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 102972, member: 99"] I don't know that you can call her a easy child anymore, Carolanne. Maybe it's time to change her status to difficult child 2. What is it about turning 16 that makes her think that "they" are magically going to put her into a group home? There's no age limit on group homes. She has no idea of what that situation would be like. Having lived in that situation when I was a girl, I can tell you right now, she won't like it. It's true that the adults won't dote on her the way you have, and she might find that freeing in an odd way from time to time. They also won't buy her anything for personal use. They won't give her an allowance. Anything nice that she [i]does[/i] have she'll have to keep on her person at all times because otherwise eventually it [i]will[/i] be stolen from her. I hope she likes sh*t on a shingle and tuna casserole, because she'll be eating a lot of it. And she can forget about soda pop, fast food, private lessons of any kind, or after school activities that cost money. Also, kiss goodbye going anywhere that isn't on the group home's activity schedule. No visiting friends, no overnighters. Then again, every night will be like an overnighter, because even in the smallest bedroom, she will find two sets of bunkbeds. And she needs to get used to sleeping with those valuable items too (I slept with a great big purse). There will be assigned daily chores. Mine was to vacuum the living and family room every morning before school. (With my purse on my shoulder). On weekends there was the full house cleaning. My job was windows. One of the girl's jobs was to pincurl "mom's" hair. There will be difficult child's there that will steal her limelight like she never thought anyone could. If she thought [i]one[/i] difficult child sibling was bad, wait until she has ten. If I were you, I would let her know in no uncertain terms that you will do nothing to stop her from her goal of living in the lovely group home that she dreams of. And that you will welcome her back whenever she wants to come home and act her age. That age being 15. Not 12, and not 30. I'm pretty sure that you won't tell her what my dad told me. "Do what you want because you could go out and play in the freeway right now and get hit by a car and die and I couldn't care less." Harumph! Sorry for being grouchy about this, it obviously struck a nerve. I [i]thought[/i] that was what I wanted when I was about her age too. She's lucky that you value her enough to want her well and home. [/QUOTE]
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