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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 438907" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm so sorry that this is such a stressor and you can't enjoy the experience. Sadly, that often happens. Honestly I can't think of any polite way you can change "the plan" that future mother in law and future daughter in law have put in place but here are some thoughts I have for your consideration <strong>or</strong> just forget, lol.</p><p></p><p>I think that I might just tell mother in law "My contributions to the shower can only include X$'s and X amount of time (before and/or after)". I think I would arrange a children's party for the time of the wedding and make sure I found the best people available to be in charge. I think I might just say to mother in law to be "I <strong>know </strong>you are going to look absolutely lovely at the wedding in a floor length gown but chances are that my gown will not be the same length. I will complement your choice to the best of my ability." I might also add with a smile "Of course I don't know what the attendants are wearing but I'm <strong>sure </strong>you and daughter in law have made excellent choices. I understand the bridesmaids are wearing pink and, of course, I will avoid that color." </p><p></p><p>Draw your lines (only as needed), smile and focus on the happy anticipation of having your family visiting. Like the Serenity Prayer says "accept the things you can not change, have the courage to change what you can" I'm sure you'll find the wisdom to know the difference and that will ease your stress. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 438907, member: 35"] I'm so sorry that this is such a stressor and you can't enjoy the experience. Sadly, that often happens. Honestly I can't think of any polite way you can change "the plan" that future mother in law and future daughter in law have put in place but here are some thoughts I have for your consideration [B]or[/B] just forget, lol. I think that I might just tell mother in law "My contributions to the shower can only include X$'s and X amount of time (before and/or after)". I think I would arrange a children's party for the time of the wedding and make sure I found the best people available to be in charge. I think I might just say to mother in law to be "I [B]know [/B]you are going to look absolutely lovely at the wedding in a floor length gown but chances are that my gown will not be the same length. I will complement your choice to the best of my ability." I might also add with a smile "Of course I don't know what the attendants are wearing but I'm [B]sure [/B]you and daughter in law have made excellent choices. I understand the bridesmaids are wearing pink and, of course, I will avoid that color." Draw your lines (only as needed), smile and focus on the happy anticipation of having your family visiting. Like the Serenity Prayer says "accept the things you can not change, have the courage to change what you can" I'm sure you'll find the wisdom to know the difference and that will ease your stress. DDD [/QUOTE]
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